Notes: Faith and Relationsh!t

LRG__DSC6447I often heard people saying “I cannot marry this person because we do not have same religion” or “I cannot marry this person because (s)he doesn’t wanna convert into x religion”. It got me thinking and wondering what love really is.

Frankly, I just do not understand when a lover asks, demands or even worse sometimes FORCES their partner to convert into certain religion or belief simply to get married, simply to prove that (s)he loves him/her.

What is the point to make them convert into certain religion, has it on the paper but they just do not believe it. Even worse, it is not uncommon that some of them would make fun of it and disrespect it because they do not believe it.

Meanwhile, if (s)he does not convert, one of them will consider her/him for not sincerely loving them. And sometimes, if (s)he does not convert, it is often translated or concluded or defined that their lover does not respect one’s parents. Really?! 

First of all, your love should not be measured based on their belief, race or social status. Secondly, you marry her/him and not her/his parents. And last but not least, you just cannot force one to convert into something that they do not believe in. I just find this dumb and stupid!

Sadly, it is pretty common practice in Indonesia because regulation only allows the legalization of marriage to be done in a religious institution. You cannot just go to the civil registry. Even worse, those religions are imported religions in this country.

Forcing an individual to convert into certain religion means that one forces others to lie to themselves. If one can lie to themselves, it is not impossible that (s)he will lie to their partner too.

You see how religions play with people’s mind. Lovers forget what love is. Lovers forget that when you love someone, you must love them unconditionally.

Music: Don’t Judge Me

Chris Brown: Don’t Judge Me

[Verse 1]
I don’t wanna go there
We should never go there
Why you wanna go there
I guess I gotta go there

[Pre-Hook]
You’re hearing rumours about me
And you can’t stomach the thought
Of someone touching my body
When you so close to my heart
I won’t deny what they saying
Because most of it is true
But it was all before I fell for you

[Hook]
So please babe
So please don’t judge me
And I won’t judge you
Cause it could get ugly
Before it gets beautiful
Please don’t judge me
And I won’t judge you
And if you love me
Then let it be beautiful
Let it be beautifu-u-ul , let it be beautiful
Let it be beautifu-u-ul , let it be beautiful

[Verse 2]
Everything I say right now
Is gonna be use in another fight
And I’ve been through this so many times
Can we change the subject
You gonna start asking me questions like:
“Was she attractive? Was she an actress?”
Baby the fact is

[Pre-Hook]
You’re hearing rumours about me
And saw some pictures online
Saying things, got you so angry
Making you wish you were mine
Before we start talking crazy
Saying some things we’ll regret
Can we just slow it down and press reset

[Hook]

[Bridge]
Just left the past
Just be the past
And focused on things
That are gonna make us laugh
Take me as I am, love who I was
I’ll promise I’ll be, the one that you can trust

[Hook]

I don’t wanna go there
We should never go there

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