I often heard people saying “I cannot marry this person because we do not have same religion” or “I cannot marry this person because (s)he doesn’t wanna convert into x religion“. It got me thinking and wondering what love really is.
Frankly, I just do not understand when a lover asks, demands or even worse sometimes FORCES their partner to convert into certain religion or belief simply to get married, simply to prove that (s)he loves him/her.
What is the point to make them convert into certain religion, has it on the paper but they just do not believe it. Even worse, it is not uncommon that some of them would make a fun of it and disrespect it because they do not believe it.
Meanwhile, if (s)he does not convert, one of them will consider her/him for not sincerely loving them. And sometimes, if (s)he does not convert, it is often translated or concluded or defined that their lover does not respect one’s parents. Really?!
First of all, your love should not be measured based on their belief, race or social status. Secondly, you marry her/him and not her/his parents. And last but not least, you just cannot force one to convert into something that they do not believe in. I just find this dumb and stupid!
Sadly, it is pretty common practice in Indonesia because regulation only allows the legalization of marriage to be done in religious institution. You cannot just go to civil registry. Even worse, those religions are imported religions in this country.
Forcing an individual to convert into certain religion means that one forces other to lie to themselves. If one can lie to themselves, it is not impossible that (s)he will lie to their partner too.
You see how religions play with people’s mind. Lovers forget what love is. Lovers forget that when you love someone, you must love them unconditionally.