Hence, I always try to separate my personal and professional life. Sometimes I just do not really want to be friends with my co-worker but I will be friendly with them. I build fence around me, I would not tell them about my very personal life. Unless I could sense whether (s)he is a real friend to me or not. I just hate office politic!
Why? Well, let me tell you why….
- People tend to get jealous easily with other’s people life or achievement because they feel that they are senior or have close relationship with the boss (you can list hundred reason why your co-worker would get jealous of you, be you are smarter than them, you are prettier than them, you achieve more than them, etc);
- People tend to be judgemental about the real you and sometimes they would use your private life to against you.
That is why I always build the bridge between me and my co-workers. For me, I don’t come to Jakarta to make a friend or enemy. I come to this city to work and earn living. If I have to build a network, I will keep it professionally. Again… I just hate office politic! Too much drama! Although some people enjoy it and go around talking about other people life because they just got nothing to do. But don’t you have enough drama in your life?
Anyway, even though I share my private life in my personal blog where thousands people could read and comment about it, it does not mean that they can approach me personally to tell me what I can and cannot do as if they really know about me. I am not anti-criticism but I just don’t like people tell me what to do in my private life when they have no idea about who I am.
Hence, I invite anybody to leave an online comment about my life. Feel free to say whatever you want to say about me. I will appreciate any kind of comment that you leave online, be it criticism, compliment or sympathy. I will read them, reflect on them or even laugh at them. Your comment is my entertainment. But DO NOT approach me personally to give me suggestion about what I should or I shouldn’t do about my life because you don’t know the real me.
PS: this writing got nothing to do with my current job. It is reflection from my carrier in these last four years since I moved to Jakarta in 2010.