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Music: No Mediocore

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Notes: Playing Around with Your Genital? Get Yourself Tested!

Many people love to play with their genitals. It gives us joy and satisfaction. Unfortunately many of them (or us) do not like to talk about it openly in public. Well, I do understand. Talking about sex is considered taboo in our society as we are living in a society, which is full of social norm and also religious restriction. But in the end of the day, we are human and sex is one of our basic needs.

Why do I want to talk about sex again here? Well, few days ago I went for Voluntary Counseling Test (VCT) HIV at Ruang Carlo, St. Carolus Hospital. It  is not that I am playing with my genital uncontrollably but I miss to have a discussion with HIV consular about sexual health awareness. It has been for ages since the last time I did it (getting myself tested and having discussion about sexual health awareness).

This …. somehow brought back the memories to my days in  Yogyakarta. Once in three months, two of my best gay friends and I always went for a regular HIV VCT  in PKBI Badran, Yogyakarta.

I vividly remember when  I did the HIV VCT for the first time in 2007. The consular asked me what I would do if somehow the test result came up positive? I must say that it was a really good question! I was confused, I did not know what to say because I was not sure what I would do if the test result came up positive. “Well… I think I am gonna run away. I am gonna disappear but I don’t know where tho.” I said to the consular.

Anyhow, the regular HIV VCT has really created a sexual health awareness in myself and made me understand the important of latex a.k.a condom. For me as a woman, latex is not only to prevent pregnancy but more importantly to protect ourselves from sexual transmitted disease. Why? I’ll tell you why… it is because we never know how wild our sexual partner out there. They might claim to be loyal or have been using condom while fucking around but we never really know the truth. Would you trust them easily? No!

For me, the worst nightmare is having sexual transmitted disease such as Syphilis, Herpes, Hepatitis, Gonorrhoea and also HIV/AIDS. If you want to continue your life, you have to treat those disease. Trust me, it is not gonna be fun at all because you have the obligation to be discipline in taking medication and seeing the doctor.

Anyway, I don’t find talking about sex openly in public is taboo. It actually helps me to create sexual health awareness between me and my friends to remind each other the importance of safe sex. As many of us might have been aware that we cannot  go around fire expecting not to sweat especially when latex is not one of your best friend.

But ay…. HIV/AIDS  or some sexual transmitted disease is not only caused by playing around with your genital but also blood transfusion and also sharing unsterile needle.

So….. Do you play with your genitals a lot?  Do you have many sexual partners? And… have you ever got yourself tested? Well, if not…. get yourself tested buddy! Whatever the outcome of the test is, it is better to know earlier than later. Trust me! Don’t be afraid….

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Music: Kindess Boomerang

One Day by Matisyahu

Sometimes I lay
Under the moon
And thank God I’m breathing
Then I pray
Don’t take me soon
Cause i’m here for a reason
Sometimes in my tears I drown
But I never let it get me down
So when negativity surrounds
I know some day it’ll all turn around
Because
All my life I’ve been waiting for
I’ve been praying for
For the people to say
That we dont wanna fight no more
There be no more wars
And our children will play

One day x6

It’s not about
Win or lose
Because we all lose
When they feed on the souls of the innocent
Blood drenched pavement
Keep on moving though the water stay raging
in this maze you can lose your way (your way)
it might drive you crazy but dont let it faze you no way (no way)

Sometimes in my tears I drown
But I never let it get me down
So when negativity surrounds
I know some day it’ll all turn around
Because
All my life I’ve been waiting for
I’ve been praying for
For the people to say
That we dont wanna fight no more
There be no more wars
And our children will play

One day x6

One day this all will change
Treat people the same
Stop with the violence
Down the the hate
One day we’ll all be free
And proud to be
Under the same sun
Singing songs of freedom like

One day x2
All my life I’ve been waiting for
I’ve been praying for
For the people to say
That we don’t wanna fight no more
There be no more wars
And our children will play

One day x6

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Music: Gone Going

Johnny wanna be a big star
Get on stage and play the guitar
Make a little money, buy a fancy car
Big old house and an alligator
Just to match with them alligator shoes
He’s a rich man so he’s no longer singing the blues
He’s singing songs about material things
And platinum rings and watches that go bling
But, diamonds don’t bling in the dark
He a star now, but he ain’t singing from the heart
Sooner or later he’s just gonna fall apart
Cause his fans can’t relate to his new found art
He ain’t doing what he did from the start
And that’s putting in some feeling and thought
He decided to live his life shallow
Cash in his love for material

[Chorus]
And its gone… gone… going…
Gone… everything gone… give a damn…
Gone be the birds when they don’t want to sing…
Gone people… all awkward with their things… gone.

You see yourself in the mirror
And you feel safe cause it looks familiar
But you afraid to open up your soul
Cause you don’t really know, don’t really know
Who he is, the person that’s deep within
Cause you are content with just being the name-brand man
And you fail to see that its trivial
Insignificant, you addicted to material
I’ve seen your kind before
You’re the type that thinks souls is sold in a store
Packaged up with incense sticks
With them vegetarian meals
To you that’s righteous
You’re fiction like books
You need to go out to life and look
Cause… what happens when they take your material
You already sold your soul and its…

[Chorus]

You say that time is money and money is time
So you got mind in your money and your money on your mind
But what about… that crime that you did to get paid
And what about… that bid, you can’t take it to your brain
What about those shoes you’ll wear today
They’ll do no good on the bridges you burnt along the way

All that money that you got gonna be gone
That gear that you rock gonna be gone
The house up on the hill gonna be gone
The gold purse on your grill gonna be gone
The ice on your wrist gonna be gone
That nice little Miss gonna be gone
That whip that you roll gonna be gone
And what’s worst is your soul’s already gone

[Chorus]

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Review: The Magic of Homemade Rice and Coffee Scrub

Do know you that coffee bean and rice grain have a great benefit for your skin? [2014: EO]

Do know you that coffee bean and rice grain have a great benefit for your skin? [2014: EO]

In these last few years, I have been having a hard time to deal with my skin (oily and acne) problem. I have been seeing a number of dermatologist, purchasing the best a.k.a expensive skin care product and spending million rupiah to get rid of it but all I got was just a constant disappointment. Nothing worked well and caused me dependency! So, after the “innovation” of toothpaste face mask to get rid my acne, which works well and I still apply it to my face, I just discovered that I also can get rid of dull skin, black spot and to have a glowing skin by making my own homemade facial and body scrub with coffee bean and rice grain. How come? Below is the fun fact! According to my internet research, Dr. Leslie Baumann, a dermatologist at the University of Miami, was quoted by Elle Magazine Canada, mentioned that the caffeine in coffee can help to smoothen the skin and also remove the skin cancer cell by sun damage. She added that caffeine is an antioxidant, it helps to shrink the blood vessel and dehydrates fat cells.

Homemade coffee and rice scrub [2014:EO]

Homemade coffee and rice scrub [2014:EO]

Other than that, an article on Livestrong.com mentioned that coffee scrub can help to treat the redness and inflammation, get rid of cellulite and also smoothen the skin. In addition to that, coffee scrub also can help to get rid the dark under-eye circle. Meanwhile  Caroline Frazer, a skincare expert, was quoted by dailymail.co.uk, pointed out that that rice scrub helps to smoothen and brighten the skin because it contains pro-vitamin B5 and vitamin E. The article also mentioned that rice has been used by Japanese to get flawless skin for hundred years.

Applying the homemade rice and coffee facial scrub [2014: EO]

Applying the homemade rice and coffee facial scrub [2014: EO]

So….. since I found out about the great benefit of coffee and rice for my skin, I have been continuously making my own homemade facial scrub from coffee and rice on daily basis. Everyday, I scrub my face with it especially after I did an outdoor workout or used a make up, i.e powder. And guess what? After a month I applied it to my face, I have started to see the result of it where my facial skin is brighter, smother, firmer and glowing. Of course, I have been aware that it DOES NOT give me AN INSTANT best result but I see that the result comes GRADUALLY. Nowadays, I can start to see that the result coming, where I have so much less acne comparing than before. If I do have acne, it usually comes only 1 or 2 before my menstruation comes. On the top of that, I also can confidently go out with  my face naked, i.e I don’t have to use any foundation or bb cream to cover up my dull facial skin anymore. However sometimes I am still using powder, it depends on the occasion.  You can see the different on the picture below!

Before using the magic coffee and rice scrub! FYI, I wore make-up in this photo [2014: E O]

Before using the magic coffee and rice scrub! FYI, I wore make-up in this photo [2014: E O]

My naked face! No foundation, no powder, no heavy make-up! [2014:EO]

My naked face! No foundation, no powder, no heavy make-up! [2014:EO]

So how do you make your homemade rice and coffee scrub? It is very easy! Just grind two table spoon of rice and a table spoon of coffee bean together. Mix the powder with either mineral water, olive oil or honey. For me, I usually mix it with water only as I don’t particularly believe that the olive oil or honey that I bought 100 percent organic or natural. I am worried if it might contain some chemical, which might be harmful for my skin. You know … business people are tricky. They claim their product to be organic meanwhile some of them are not. So I rather to use mineral water. Lol! FYI, I also use the rice and coffee scrub for my body. I am glad that I found this great secret natural beauty recipe, which costs me small fortune and works well. I also don’t have to be worried with any chemical side effect for my face anymore because it is all organic and so far I have no side bad effect from it. Now I can save my money that I have been spending for skincare treatment product, which never worked, for something else.

Goodbye expensive skincare products! [2014: EO]

Goodbye expensive skincare products! [2014: EO]

It is amazing that actually we can find a health treatment in our own home. It is natural, organic and inexpensive. And you know…. this great “innovation” really helps me to minimise my spending  on cosmetic as well as helps me to minimize my consumption on chemical products, which tend to have a negative effect to my body. So farewell expensive chemical facial skin care products! signature

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Notes: Are You Better Than Other?

Who am I to judge? [2014: E O]

Who am I to judge? [2014: E O]

For me… life is about learning process. As I reflect into it, I see that we are as human being are pretty arrogant toward each other especially when it comes to social status, jobs, education or money.

Some people ask me “Why do you want to hang around with criminal, thief or  liar?” Well, I hang around with sex workers, I hang around with street thugs, I hang around with criminal and I also hang around with lesbian, gay, transgender community. Those people tend to be labeled as “bad people” in our society. We divided ourselves into group with our brain.

The question that I asked myself is who are we to judge? What makes you better than other? Does hang around with those people make me bad? Are bad people always bad? Are good people always good? What is the definition of bad and good people?

Since I was young, I like to learn from other people and people always have two side of coin, the good and the bad. I like to hang around with anyone to give me perspective of life, which I don’t get it in the school or book. 

Some people might not understand it why I would hang around with them, I even have a close relationship with them. If they bring the good into our life, which is not merely material things but our behaviour, then why not?

Funny to see how arrogant we are as human and always feel better than other. Meanwhile we are only human, where in the end of our life, we would die, become corpse and return to the dust.

What makes us better than other? Is it just our job? Our education background? Our family background? Our social status? Our skin colour? With all of those that you can buy with money, are you sure that you are better than other? Let’s see ourselves in the mirror! Shall we?! signature

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Spirituality: Trust God

Before your burden overcomes you, trust God to put His arms underneath you.

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When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and through the rivers, they shall not overflow you – Isaiah 43:2

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God, give me the faith of a little child! A faith that will look to Thee that will never will falter and never fail but follow Thee trustingly. Amen. (Showerman- Our Daily Bread Vol 10)

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Notes: Being Healthy

Gym time [2014:EO]

Gym time [2014:EO]

I have been going to gym three or four times a week lately. Somehow I am madly in love with exercise but let me tell you a story why I become a gym freak lately.

Honestly, I have never been in love with sport  until I moved to Jakarta. I used to think that doing sport is just time consuming, wasting time and exhausting. I have never thought about the benefit of it for my body and my health.

Back when I was still in elementary and high school,  I never took the sport class seriously. Somehow I still vividly remember whenever our teacher asked the students to run around the school field before the sport class was started, number of students, including myself, chose to walk. I would say that back that time most of the students were excited with sport class because it was done outdoor and it was time to chit-chat with our classmate. However now, I have different point of view about sport and the importance of it for my health.

So here my gym love’s story began. Back to 2010 when  I moved to Jakarta for the very first time, I was drown into a very bad big city lifestyle and routine, stressful life with frustration. I worked from 10 a.m to 8 p.m sometimes 9 p.m, would eat late and eat whatever is available, I did not manage to have enough sleep or a good quality sleep well and on the weekend, I would go out to have some cocktail or wine with my friends until I got drunk. It went that way week after week, after week and after week. I didn’t pay attention on my own health and always felt that I was strong.

Can you imagine how bad my lifestyle was, how my money wasted, how my body was slowly damaged and how bad the impact into on my body and spirit because of those bad lifestyle and routine? It was terribly bad! I had no idea about being healthy and I lived a very bad yet stressful lifestyle.

Jogging Track [2014: E O]

Jogging Track [2014: E O]

But things changed in 2011 since I met my dawg, George. You know sometimes many people say that the reason they sign up for gym membership because they want to get skinny or have a sexy body but George has different story. He told me an interesting story about why he loves sport so much and how important being healthy is, it got nothing to do with being skinny but about to be healthy.

Somehow, his story inspired me and I decided to sign up for gym membership in the nearest fitness centre in my apartment complex in South Jakarta. Of course as I was not familiar with fitness centre, I also decided to hire personal trainer for nearly six months to get myself familiar with the gym equipment, the exercise program and also the diet.

Honestly, I found it difficult to get myself discipline to go to gym at least three times a week at the very beginning. It is because (once again) going to fitness centre is such a time consuming and it’s too complicated to bring gym bag before going to work. But I realized that it is all about willing in ourselves by ourselves, it is about courage in ourselves by ourselves.

As time passed by, I started to enjoy working out at the gym when I felt the result of working out, I felt more fresh, strong and less stress. I have to admit that exercise at the gym is pretty is tiring activity but I would say that it is different kind of tiredness compared to tiredness from our daily routine. Now it has been more than two years since I signed up for gym membership. I tried my best to manage my time to go to gym at least twice a week, regardless my routine.

One thing that I learn about engaging with sport activities is that it teaches us to be discipline with ourselves, e.g discipline in managing our time between working, exercise and resting. It also teaches us to appreciate our body and physical health.

However  clearly everybody has different motivation when they sign up for the gym, some people sign up the gym membership for ‘image’ a.k.a status, some want to get skinny, some want to reduce their weight and some want to be healthy. Me, I want to be healthy because I know how uncomfortable it is to be unhealthy and take medicine every morning simply to be healthy.

Source of vitamin [2014: E O]

Source of vitamin [2014: E O]

Meanwhile the aesthetic result of exercise is my second reason why I go to gym. Hence, I also need to pay attention on what I consume, i.e I eat less fatty and junk food; I consume less sugar, I don’t take soda  and also I cut down my alcohol intake on the weekend.

For me, living a healthy lifestyle means that we have to be discipline in managing our selves, it also means that we appreciate and love ourselves. If we are healthy, we can do anything with a happy feeling. Don’t you think so?

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Science: Is Organic Food Better For Your Health?

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Review: Han Gang

 

Han Gang Waltermongisi [2014: E O]

Han Gang Waltermongisi [2014: E O]

Lately I have been hearing many people saying how delicious Korean food are especially the barbecue one.  Honestly, I have never been really interested to try it until few weeks ago I was writing about Korean restaurants and look at the Korean food image at the website. It looks so tasty and tempting.

So here I was… going to Han Gang restaurant in Jalan Walter Mongisidi, South Jakarta to try my first Korean barbecue. As I never tried Korean barbecue before, the waitress suggested me to order modeum gogi, an assorted beef. My ooo my… what a big menu?! I even felt so full to the next day!

I was really glad that finally I had the Korean food after craving for it for few days and it was super good. However I would not have it so often as it is so filling! It is not that expensive for that big menu, my friend and I spent nearly Rp 700,000 (68 USD) for a good quality Korean barbecue. It’s worth!

Anyway, I was wondering who the owner of Han Gang Mongisidi is because on the ground floor of the restaurant is a luxury car showroom called “Leo Auto Cars” :-D

Free authentic Korean appetiser at Han Gang [2014: E O]

Free authentic Korean appetiser at Han Gang [2014: E O]

Modeum Gogi [2014: E O]

Modeum Gogi [2014: E O]

The beef were grilled with  Korean charcoal to bring an authentic taste and distinctive aroma [2014: E O]

The beef were grilled with Korean charcoal to bring an authentic taste and distinctive aroma [2014: E O]

Ready to eat! [2014: EO]

Ready to eat! [2014: EO]

 

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