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Catatan: Berpendapat

Saya ini… payah! Sejak duduk di bangku sekolah lalu melanjutkan pendidikan di perguruan tinggi, saya selalu takut untuk berpendapat. Saya takut kalau saya salah. Saya takut kalau pendapat saya bodoh. Dua hal tersebut membuat saya cenderung mengunci mulut saya di tengah-tengah diskusi dengan topik menarik. Padahal apa salahnya kalau kita salah, apakah pendapat mereka sudah pasti benar? Lalu kenapa saya berkecil hati…?!

Mungkin karena saya merasa jelek, item, kriting dan krempeng. Kombinasi ideal untuk menjadi jelek untuk masyarakat kita yang mengidealkan bahwa cantik itu, putih, kurus dan berambut lurus panjang. Dari situ, saya kerap berpikir bahwa saya takut untuk diejek. “Udah jelek, bodoh pula!“. Enggak tahu kenapa hal tersebut menjadi suatu masalah besar bagi saya.

Tetapi kebiasaan saya menulis buku harian sejak kecil membuat saya berani berpendapat melalui tulisan. Dari buku harian yang sifatnya pribadi, saya menemukan internet forum lalu kemudian blog saat saya masih duduk di bangku sekolah menengah atas (2003/2004).

Waktu itu, internet masih merupakan barang mahal. Untuk mengakses internet, saya harus ke internet cafe dan mengeluarkan Rp 4,000 per jam untuk dapat mengakses internet. Di situ saya menemukan dunia saya, saya bisa berpendapat tanpa orang tahu bagaimana bentuk muka saya, warna kulit saya atau jenis rambut saya. Saya enggak takut diejek karena penampilan fisik saya yang jauh dari definisi cantik.

Toh, orang enggak bisa melihat foto diri saya. Maklum waktu itu kamera digital belum terlalu populer untuk mengambil foto diri ribuan kali. Apalagi  foto selfie, istilah itu pun sepertinya belum ada. Kalau mau foto masih pakai roll film atau harus ke studio atau photo box.

Tahun 2005, saya pun menemukan multiply.com. Saya kembali menemukan ruang di mana saya bisa berbagi tentang berbagai macam hal, mulai dari catatan harian pribadi, pendapat saya tentang topik hangat, foto atau musik. Saya pun membangun pertemanan virtual dengan orang-orang yang sama sekali enggak saya kenal.

Meskipun pertemuan hanya terjadi secara virtual saja tapi saya merasa tahu mereka dari tulisan mereka atau postingan mereka. Ada yang suka traveling, ada yang suka memasak lalu berbagi resep makanan. Ada yang suka nonton film, ada juga yang suka photography. Ada yang suka politik, ada juga yang suka belajar bahasa dan budaya.

Bisa dikatakan bahwa berbagai macam diskusi tentang ide dan pikiran pun terbangun di antara para blogger. Yang menarik adalah enggak ada yang 100% benar atau 100% salah. Bahkan, seingat saya jarang netizen yang sangat amat defensive waktu itu atau saya jarang menemukan akun bodong yang bertujuan untuk menipu atau menyerang pihak-pihak tertentu.

Bukan hanya itu, saya pun bisa belajar dari orang lain apalagi kebanyakan dari para blogger tersebut, usianya jauh lebih tua dari saya, jadi mereka sudah banyak makan garam. Saya belajar bahwa pikiran orang itu macam-macam, saya belajar untuk memberi kesempat orang lain untuk berpendapat dan menghargai pendapat orang lain sekalipun saya enggak setuju.

Pada tahun 2006/2007, saya mulai bertemu dengan mpers (blogger pengguna multiply) di Yogya. Pertemanan terbentuk, meskipun kemudian kami jarang bertemu. Belum lagi multiply yang kemudian berubah menjadi e-commerce platform, lalu almarhum alias tutup. Walhasil  saya jarang ngeblog dan berinteraksi dengan kawan-kawan blogger.

Jujur saja, meskipun saya sudah blogging selama satu dekade, saya masih takut membuka mulut saya untuk berpendapat di tengah orang-orang yang enggak saya kenal dekat. Bagaimana kalau salah? Bagaimana kalau saya terdengar bodoh?  Bahkan sebagai kuli tinta, saya lebih memilih melakukan ‘wawancara ekslusif’ dengan narasumber karena saya enggak akan terlihat bodoh di mata orang lain. Payah sekali! Ya…. saya ini payah!

Saya iri dengan mereka yang berani mengungkapkan pendapat tanpa takut mereka salah. Saya iri dengan mereka yang cenderung lantang dan berpikir kritis dalam berdiskusi.

Hal ini membuat saya bertanya, apakah ketakutan saya ini karena saya orang Jawa dan cenderung nrimo? Kalau itu sih enggak ada hubungannya! Atau apakah ketakutan ini sebenarnya berasal dari dunia pendidikan kita yang enggak mengajarkan siswa untuk berdiskusi sejak dini? Apakah ketakutan ini sebenarnya berasal dari pendidikan kita di mana guru atau dosen HARUS digugu dan ditiru serta selalu benar karena mereka adalah guru? Well bisa jadi. Dan ini harus diubah agar siswa enggak takut berpendapat dan dapat membangun diskusi yang kritis di kemudian hari.

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Catatan: Indonesia dan Rohingnya

Dukungan online terhadap pemerintah Indonesia untuk menerima dan menampung etnis Rohingnya terus meningkat setelah mereka tidak mendapatkan tempat di Myanmar, Thailand dan Malaysia.  Sementara itu warga  Syiah di Sampang, warga Ahmadiyah di Lombok dan Jawa Barat dan juga masyarakat Papua, yang notabene adalah warga negara Indonesia, terus usir dari negaranya / tempat tinggal mereka sendiri. Hak konstitusi mereka sebagai warga negara tidak terakomodasi.

Belum lagi politisi dari partai agama yang selama ini cenderung mendukung diskriminasi terhadap warga Syiah dan Ahmadiyah sekarang meminta pemerintah Indonesia untuk membantu warga Rohingnya atas nama Pancasila. Pancasila yang sekarang mungkin hanya tinggal teori semata.

Memang atas dasar kemanusiaan kita harus membantu mereka, tapi seberapa jauh kita harus membantu mereka, seberapa lama kita harus membantu mereka lalu bagaimana dengan saudara kita sendiri yang terusir dari negeri ini? Ironi!

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Notes: Monetize Your Genitalia? Part II

Our society glorify relationship and romance so much. So as soon as we heard about the law enforcement officer or the government made an effort to curb prostitution and it received a lot of media exposures, many people start talking about the morality behind the prostitution business scene, be it the sex worker, the customer and the pimp.

I must say that I respect those, who sell their body to provide sex service openly -regardless to fulfill their basic need or lifestyle-. It is because they are being HONEST, being REAL.

Does it mean that I support prostitution? In a way. Or let me say that I support the legalization of prostitution. But I do not encourage anyone to do so if they know they can do something else to make money. And again, I am not talking about those who are being sold by human trafficking syndicate or forced to work as sex worker by their own family or relatives, it is just two different thing. I am talking about those, who chose to do it with their own will for whatever reason they do have.

So while you are sexualy active but you cannot have sex with your real lover (if you have one) because of certain reason and you cannot find any phuck buddy to fulfill your sexual need without involving feeling and respecting each other, I think it is way better than to be with a sex worker to fulfill your sexual need. It is way better than to be with the-so-called-lover, who just want your money, play mind game and play with your heart.

Why? Because the-so-called lover usually would immidiately leave you and break your heart as soon as u have no penny left. Would you let yourself enter into an artificial relationship with a lot of drama and make you unhappy, while what you two need are money and sex? Again, there are supply and demand! PS: In case you don’t know that there are FEMALE and MALE sex workers out there, so don’t blame it on the womenfolk or being judgmental toward the womenfolk only.

Since the murder of Deudeuh Avisah Rini, who reportedly is a sex worker and offered her service online, as well as the arrest of RA, a pimp who reportedly has a network of 200 hi-class sex worker, prostitution has once again become a topic of discussion among the Indonesian netizens.

List of phone number of Indonesian celebrities, who allegedly involved in prostitution business and offered an incredibly high rate up to 200 million IDR (18,000 USD), has been going viral through the net. Many people made a fun out of it while sharing it in the social media.

According to the comments on list of Indonesian celebrities, who allegedly provide sex service, many Indonesian netizens suddenly turn to be saint and feel way better than them, who work as a sex worker and become the customer of prostitution business. Call me that I am too serious or whatever responding on this issue. I just feel that there is just something odd and ironic about it. I do not really see people talking about the health problem and the awareness of reproductive health awareness. All the discussions were about morality, money, sex and politics.

But ay… what about if the prostitution issue is actually being used to drive public opinion to cover up some dirty business among the Indonesian politicians, who want to attack each other? And we are dragged into their drama. Just like last year during 2014 Indonesian Presidential Election, the Indonesian netizens were invited to make a fun of presidential candidates.

As you might have been aware that the National Police Controversial Figure Budi Waseso, who is also the national police detective chief, made a statement that the National Police Criminal Investigation Directorate would involve in handling the the celebrity prostitution case.

At the same time, many of you might also be aware that POLRI has been ‘actively’ curbing corruption cases in the country after Budi Gunawan failed to be the National Police Chief and a number of KPK-POLRI saga. Somehow there is an indication that the customer of hi-class prostitution business, who is likely to be politician, is being targeted by the law enforcement officer for certain political purpose. Who is that? Who knows! Is it true? Time would tell.

But would we let ourselves entering into their drama and being judgmental toward sex worker and the customers, who might be happy with what they are doing? I really get bored reading all the news on hi-class and online prostitution and read the judgmental discussion about the same issue again every day in the internet. Please…. give me a break!

It is just my opinion, you can agree or disagree. Cheers

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Wardrobe: Sidomukti Skirt

Sidomukti Skirt [2015: CP]

Sidomukti Skirt [2015: CP]

Years ago….. I used to be known as an ‘ethnic girl’ because I love wearing ethnic fashion outfit and accessories, be it necklace, earing or skirt, and that is how I called myself, ethnicgirl. However my fashion taste has been changing as time passed by. I left the ethnic girl within me and become some kind of edgy girl. Yet, I still heart some ethnic element in fashion.

I must say that I often find it hard to get something an outfit which bring together the element of ethnic and modern as one combination in fashion product. Many fashion producer might try but I think they fail or I just never like them. That is why ….  I’d always rather to purchase raw material and design it by myself or together with tailor. Why? So I can get the perfect combination of color, pattern and also unique design according to my taste. At the same time, I also could determine the quality of it.

Rocking Sidomukti Skirt [2015: CP]

Rocking Sidomukti Skirt [2015: CP]

Few months ago, I went back to my hometown, the city of Yogyakarta. There is one ritual that I always do whenever I go to Yogya, I always go to Mirota Batik in Jalan Malioboro for Batik shopping. Mirota Batik is one of the largest souvenir shop in Yogyakarta. The shop is organized, clean and has a wide variety of products with reasonable price. I got myself a couple of Batik Solo.

As soon as I returned to Jakarta, I asked a good friend of mine, who happened to be a fashion designer, to design a funky skirt for me. And this is it, Sidomukti Skirt by Dreu Lona. Look the different that she made for the front and the back of the skirt. Love it so much! Thank you Miss Naia.

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Notes: Monetize Your Genitalia?

These days, I read news on the phenomenon of online prostitution and prostitution in general in Indonesia. Some women monetize their pu$$y-vagina and some men monetize their dick-penis. So I asked myself, why do people monetize their genitals?

Well, first of all there is nothing cheap or even free. At the same time, everyone get bills to pay. Sadly enough, both proper job and real love do not pay their bill.

I ain’t gonna judge their hustle or the way they make money, there are providers and demands within the business scene. Just play your card right and do not go around fire expecting not to sweat. That is all I can say. signature

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Wardrobe: Chloe Skirt

I am a queen of my own throne [2015: Y N]

I am a queen of my own throne [2015: Y N]

The first time I saw this Chloe Skirt by Dreu Lona, I said to myself… “O my God! I gotta get that piece!

So I called a friend of mine, who happened to be the designer and the owner of Dreu Lona. I told her that I wanted to purchase the Chloe Skirt. Just within three days, Dreu Lona Chloe Skirt was waiting for me at home.

Back that time, I was thinking to wear it for my book launch because I wanted to appear classy. Unfortunately I changed my mind and rather to appear casual.

Dancing with myself [2015: Novi]

Dancing with myself [2015: Novi]

I kept Chloe Skirt in my closet for months until I finally found the perfect top for it. Both top and bottom are made by talented Indonesian designers. They do not just sell their products but unique creativity with quality to make sure that the customer return to them. Not just that, they also empower the local tailor to bring their idea into reality.

Sometimes I rather to purchase a good quality local designer fashion products than ready-to-wear international brands fashion product. It just makes me unique. On the top of that, we help the local economy growing.

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Photo: From My Kitchen

Homemade  veggie couscous salad with bacon [2015:EO]

Homemade veggie couscous salad with bacon [2015:EO]

Mix vegetable with feta cheese [2015:EO]

Mix vegetable with feta cheese [2015:EO]

Fruit salad with corn flake and plain yogurt [2015: E O]

Fruit salad with corn flake and plain yogurt [2015: E O]

Egg white in  bell pepper, kiwi and grill plantain [2015:E O]

Egg white in bell pepper, kiwi and grill plantain [2015:E O]

Muesli  with pomegranate and plain yogurt [2015: E O]

Muesli with pomegranate and plain yogurt [2015: E O]

Black olive rice, hainanese chicken in sesame oil and raw veggie [2014: E O]

Black olive rice, hainanese chicken in sesame oil and raw veggie [2014: E O]

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