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Notes: Are You Better Than Other?

Who am I to judge? [2014: E O]

Who am I to judge? [2014: E O]

For me… life is about learning process. As I reflect into it, I see that we are as human being are pretty arrogant toward each other especially when it comes to social status, jobs, education or money.

Some people ask me “Why do you want to hang around with criminal, thief or  liar?” Well, I hang around with sex workers, I hang around with street thugs, I hang around with criminal and I also hang around with lesbian, gay, transgender community. Those people tend to be labeled as “bad people” in our society. We divided ourselves into group with our brain.

The question that I asked myself is who are we to judge? What makes you better than other? Does hang around with those people make me bad? Are bad people always bad? Are good people always good? What is the definition of bad and good people?

Since I was young, I like to learn from other people and people always have two side of coin, the good and the bad. I like to hang around with anyone to give me perspective of life, which I don’t get it in the school or book. 

Some people might not understand it why I would hang around with them, I even have a close relationship with them. If they bring the good into our life, which is not merely material things but our behaviour, then why not?

Funny to see how arrogant we are as human and always feel better than other. Meanwhile we are only human, where in the end of our life, we would die, become corpse and return to the dust. What makes us better than other? Is it just our job? Our education background? Our family background? Our social status? Our skin colour? With all of those that you can buy with money, are you sure that you are better than other? Let’s see ourselves in the mirror! Shall we?!

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Notes: Being Healthy

Gym time [2014:EO]

Gym time [2014:EO]

I have been going to gym three or four times a week lately. Somehow I am madly in love with exercise but let me tell you a story why I become a gym freak lately.

Honestly, I have never been in love with sport  until I moved to Jakarta. I used to think that doing sport is just time consuming, wasting time and exhausting. I have never thought about the benefit of it for my body and my health.

Back when I was still in elementary and high school,  I never took the sport class seriously. Somehow I still vividly remember whenever our teacher asked the students to run around the school field before the sport class was started, number of students, including myself, chose to walk. I would say that back that time most of the students were excited with sport class because it was done outdoor and it was time to chit-chat with our classmate. However now, I have different point of view about sport and the importance of it for my health.

So here my gym love’s story began. Back to 2010 when  I moved to Jakarta for the very first time, I was drown into a very bad big city lifestyle and routine, stressful life with frustration. I worked from 10 a.m to 8 p.m sometimes 9 p.m, would eat late and eat whatever is available, I did not manage to have enough sleep or a good quality sleep well and on the weekend, I would go out to have some cocktail or wine with my friends until I got drunk. It went that way week after week, after week and after week. I didn’t pay attention on my own health and always felt that I was strong.

Can you imagine how bad my lifestyle was, how my money wasted, how my body was slowly damaged and how bad the impact into on my body and spirit because of those bad lifestyle and routine? It was terribly bad! I had no idea about being healthy and I lived a very bad yet stressful lifestyle.

Jogging Track [2014: E O]

Jogging Track [2014: E O]

But things changed in 2011 since I met my dawg, George. You know sometimes many people say that the reason they sign up for gym membership because they want to get skinny or have a sexy body but George has different story. He told me an interesting story about why he loves sport so much and how important being healthy is, it got nothing to do with being skinny but about to be healthy.

Somehow, his story inspired me and I decided to sign up for gym membership in the nearest fitness centre in my apartment complex in South Jakarta. Of course as I was not familiar with fitness centre, I also decided to hire personal trainer for nearly six months to get myself familiar with the gym equipment, the exercise program and also the diet.

Honestly, I found it difficult to get myself discipline to go to gym at least three times a week at the very beginning. It is because (once again) going to fitness centre is such a time consuming and it’s too complicated to bring gym bag before going to work. But I realized that it is all about willing in ourselves by ourselves, it is about courage in ourselves by ourselves.

As time passed by, I started to enjoy working out at the gym when I felt the result of working out, I felt more fresh, strong and less stress. I have to admit that exercise at the gym is pretty is tiring activity but I would say that it is different kind of tiredness compared to tiredness from our daily routine. Now it has been more than two years since I signed up for gym membership. I tried my best to manage my time to go to gym at least twice a week, regardless my routine.

One thing that I learn about engaging with sport activities is that it teaches us to be discipline with ourselves, e.g discipline in managing our time between working, exercise and resting. It also teaches us to appreciate our body and physical health.

However  clearly everybody has different motivation when they sign up for the gym, some people sign up the gym membership for ‘image’ a.k.a status, some want to get skinny, some want to reduce their weight and some want to be healthy. Me, I want to be healthy because I know how uncomfortable it is to be unhealthy and take medicine every morning simply to be healthy.

Source of vitamin [2014: E O]

Source of vitamin [2014: E O]

Meanwhile the aesthetic result of exercise is my second reason why I go to gym. Hence, I also need to pay attention on what I consume, i.e I eat less fatty and junk food; I consume less sugar, I don’t take soda  and also I cut down my alcohol intake on the weekend.

For me, living a healthy lifestyle means that we have to be discipline in managing our selves, it also means that we appreciate and love ourselves. If we are healthy, we can do anything with a happy feeling. Don’t you think so?

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Review: Han Gang

 

Han Gang Waltermongisi [2014: E O]

Han Gang Waltermongisi [2014: E O]

Lately I have been hearing many people saying how delicious Korean food are especially the barbecue one.  Honestly, I have never been really interested to try it until few weeks ago I was writing about Korean restaurants and look at the Korean food image at the website. It looks so tasty and tempting.

So here I was… going to Han Gang restaurant in Jalan Walter Mongisidi, South Jakarta to try my first Korean barbecue. As I never tried Korean barbecue before, the waitress suggested me to order modeum gogi, an assorted beef. My ooo my… what a big menu?! I even felt so full to the next day!

I was really glad that finally I had the Korean food after craving for it for few days and it was super good. However I would not have it so often as it is so filling! It is not that expensive for that big menu, my friend and I spent nearly Rp 700,000 (68 USD) for a good quality Korean barbecue. It’s worth!

Anyway, I was wondering who the owner of Han Gang Mongisidi is because on the ground floor of the restaurant is a luxury car showroom called “Leo Auto Cars” :-D

Free authentic Korean appetiser at Han Gang [2014: E O]

Free authentic Korean appetiser at Han Gang [2014: E O]

Modeum Gogi [2014: E O]

Modeum Gogi [2014: E O]

The beef were grilled with  Korean charcoal to bring an authentic taste and distinctive aroma [2014: E O]

The beef were grilled with Korean charcoal to bring an authentic taste and distinctive aroma [2014: E O]

Ready to eat! [2014: EO]

Ready to eat! [2014: EO]

 

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Notes: One More Time…

From my wildest imagination

….. He said that he would never be with her, would never but he used to tell her that he wanted to be with her one day. Not just once he told her that he wanted to be with her one day… but many times. Everyday… she  was counting down the days and looking forward to that day. Unfortunately … instead of getting closer to that day, that day seemed to go away.

No more warm conversation but argument, no more laughters but tears and no more trust but doubt …. Their relationship was falling apart. She was very upset….  She lost the direction, she did not know where to go, she did not know what to say…. her heart was broken into pieces.

Wow! He would never be mine and we would never be just us two. Would never… not even a chance to try to be together… I couldn’t believe it. How could it be? Is it for real? My feeling was real but my dream seems to not be real… How could it be?” she asked herself in that corner.

That night … he got down on his knees, looked into her teary sad eyes to say sorry. Sorry for breaking her heart, sorry for telling her lies, sorry for hurting her, sorry for destroying her dream .. her dream to be with him in there future. He was being really sorry but was he really being sorry? She did not know… Her heart was broken for one more time ….

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Notes: Nirbhaya Had an Abortion

This is a story between me and her, the woman who has an abortion two years ago in the foreign land. I had an imaginary conversation with her while we were enjoying a glass of cold coconut ice in my living room this afternoon.  She allowed me to share our conversation.

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Her name is Nirbhaya. Her name means fearless. Nirbhaya, she is a 26 years old fearless woman, who are not afraid taking risk to get something that she wants for herself, for her own happiness. She is never afraid taking any risk at all, no matter how dangerous it is.

But last night she was upset. She had an untold story that she had been keeping for herself. Well, actually she had told some of her friends about this but still she felt that they do not understand and will never understand how she felt inside. She is still feeling the pain.

So here is her story…

Two years ago in the foreign land, Nirbhaya had an abortion of six weeks fetus in her womb.

Wow… an abortion? That is something that I have never thought that I would ever do in my life. Would never.” Nirbhaya started her story to me. “But I had to do it anyway because my man did not want it and I was not particularly ready to be a mother. I just couldn’t imagine that I would be a mother. I still wanna have fun…

Honestly, I had a moral issue with a woman, who did an abortion. However I always say to my friends that it is better to do an abortion than let the baby suffering in this cruel world. The worst is I did it too.” Nirbhaya went on.

It was an unforgettable cold Monday morning, on the third day of 2012. I had an abortion in the foreign land by myself.” she added.

You know what it means by having six weeks fetus in my womb? It means that the baby had developed tiny buds that will become arms and legs further along the line. Its heart is rapidly developing from a simple tube to the complex four chambers which pump blood around its body. This means that the heart beat can be identified easier. And I took my own child life.” she went on.

I vividly remembered the first night after I had an abortion, I heard a baby crying. I felt that my baby  haunted me,” she added.

I am just listening to Nirbhaya.

I tried to share my feeling with my man about this sometimes but he often refused to talk about it. Instead he wanted me to forget about it but it was not easy. I don’t know… despite the fact I was not ready to be a mother, sometimes I just think if my baby is still alive today, he or she would be one and half years old kid, who runs around in the house and keeps me busy. I believe he or she would be very attractive and active kid. And the greatest is that kid would call me mommy or ibu.” she said.

But he or she is not here, would never be here but it would always be in my mind. And to be honest…. I regret what I did even it is the best decision to do, it was the worst mistake that I ever did in my entire life,” she went on.

You know what Fani? Sometimes I heard a baby crying at night, my baby keeps haunting me until today and it makes me really upset. But I was lucky to find a clinic, which practice abortion legally…I was so lucky” Nirbhaya said to me. 

The funny part about that day was somehow the radio played How to Love song by Lil Wayne. Do you know that music video right where it was opened with the woman, who was about going to terminate her baby but she decided to keep the baby and showed her baby girl how  to love. I wish I was that woman. But it was the best decision anyhow.”  she went on.

What I want was just one that my man would have ear for me whenever my guilty feeling comes haunted me. Why? It is because I would never forget about the third day of 2012 that I took the life of my own blood. I just cannot forgive myself to do the abortion even it was the best decision. The pain is still there and perhaps would always be there. It pains me a lot that I killed my own blood but I am glad that my man is willing to talk about it sometimes…”  she said.

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Discussing such an issue (abortion) openly to our friend is not particularly easy to do it in our community (Indonesian society) simply because of the moral issue. But personally, I support an abortion, especially when the parents are unable to take the responsibility. I just hate the idea seeing kids suffering because parents are unable to take their responsibility to take care of their kids. However it is important to do it legally for the safety’s sake.

Anyway, I am glad that I could share her experience in this blog. Sometimes I wonder how many women are willing to come out to share their abortion experience to the public and why are they willing to do so? Well, I guess it is one way to ease their burden regardless the judgment that they would receive from the community.

One thing that I could say tho… we are only human, we make mistake intentionally or accidentally to other or to ourselves. But always remember that only God can judge us and not other fellow human being because in the end of the day we carry our own cross. Right?

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PS: Sharing our burden to our close people is the best way to ease the pain that we feel in our life. The funny thing is it is easier to share it with our friend than our own family because friends appear to have a better understanding than family. But keep in mind that  that there are a lot of rats out there, which would use it against you when you have a problem with them.

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Indonesia: Basuki Tjahaja Purnama “Ahok”

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Indonesia: Joko “Jokowi” Widodo

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Indonesia: Prabowo

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Alert: Black Money Scam

Few weeks ago, a friend of mine told us a story that he became the victim of Black Money Scam few years ago by some African men in Jakarta. It was not unfamiliar in my ear. Once I nearly fell as a victim one day in 2011 by my dear friend that I just met.

A friend showed me a white-blank note and a couple bottle of chemical liquid. He told me that he could turn the blank note to be a 100 USD note. He showed me the process but later he said that he couldn’t complete the process because he did not have a complete chemical liquid to wash the money. But it was nearly look like a 100 USD bill. “Wow! Is that real?” I said to myself.

So the next day, I told my co-worker, who was posted at the Indonesia’s Attorney General office, he told me that it was not real money and it is better that I stayed away from my new friend. But I was still curious I searched it online and apparently that it was a dirty business, it was a crime that is known as Black Scam Money.

Black Scam Money is a scam where a con artist attempt to obtain money by persuading the victims with a whole-pile of banknote-sized paper in a trunk. The con artist usually would claim that the money have been dyed black or another colour to avoid detection by customs. Later, the victim would be persuaded to pay for chemical liquid to wash the money with a promise that he would share in the proceed.

So how is the process conducted? First of all, the scammer would send a million of emails => the scammers would approach the victims =>the scammers would ask for an advance fee => the scammers would ask for more money to purchase chemical liquid to wash the money => victims go to see the money in the trunk =>washing a small sample of black money => more money to wash the money but there is no money. (You can check the full detail here)

As I never asked him again, he never pursued me again to be his client because one reasons and another but we remain friends because I simply want to give the benefit of doubt. Therefore, if you received this kind of email on Facebook

Hello, how are you doing, I hope you are in good condition of health? I’m Brian Wesley, Sorry, if i suddenly visit your profile. Can we be very good friend? if you do, am willing to know much about you. thanks.

or

i have an investment proposal but am not sure if you will be interested , as i see your profile that your very hard working and already own your own business, i am a military contractor in Iraq, and some of the US Army who serve in Iraq discover some money from Saddam Hussein warehouse. the want to transfer the money to Indonesia and want me to look for some body reliable and have her own business , as the plan to stay in Indonesia Bali after the finish there Job, i want to convince them transfer the money to you so you can use it to expand you business and make profit before the end of the year, please reply to me if your interested to my email”

Please do not respond to any of it before you fall as a victim. Do not accept any invitation meeting because they will play with your head and heart. As soon as you meet them, if they gain trust from you and start to ask for money or fancy stuff such as fancy watch.

I see this business is very cruel, it is the betrayal of trust business. They know when to start and they know when to stop it. They know very well how to twist the situations. You have worked hard to earn those money but those scammers just want to steal your sweat. Interestingly enough, those scammers tend to go to church on Sunday but steal money from hardworking people on the working days. They are very heartless and have been eaten by their greed!

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Alert: Scam-Fraud

Dear readers,

If you ever receive e-mail in your Facebook inbox, Yahoo inbox and G-mail inbox, please ignore it as it is a fraud. Those people, behind the email, know how to play with your head well! Do not accept any meeting invitation and reply those message.

i have an investment proposal but am not sure if you will be interested , as i see your profile that your very hard working and already own your own business, i am a military contractor in Iraq, and some of the US Army who serve in Iraq discover some money from Saddam Hussein warehouse. the want to transfer the money to Indonesia and want me to look for some body reliable and have her own business , as the plan to stay in Indonesia Bali after the finish there Job, i want to convince them transfer the money to you so you can use it to expand you business and make profit before the end of the year, please reply to me if your interested to my email

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