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Review: Han Gang

 

Han Gang Waltermongisi [2014: E O]

Han Gang Waltermongisi [2014: E O]

Lately I have been hearing many people saying how delicious Korean food are especially the barbecue one.  Honestly, I have never been really interested to try it until few weeks ago I was writing about Korean restaurants and look at the Korean food image at the website. It looks so tasty and tempting.

So here I was… going to Han Gang restaurant in Jalan Walter Mongisidi, South Jakarta to try my first Korean barbecue. As I never tried Korean barbecue before, the waitress suggested me to order modeum gogi, an assorted beef. My ooo my… what a big menu?! I even felt so full to the next day!

I was really glad that finally I had the Korean food after craving for it for few days and it was super good. However I would not have it so often as it is so filling! It is not that expensive for that big menu, my friend and I spent nearly Rp 700,000 (68 USD) for a good quality Korean barbecue. It’s worth!

Anyway, I was wondering who the owner of Han Gang Mongisidi is because on the ground floor of the restaurant is a luxury car showroom called “Leo Auto Cars” :-D

Free authentic Korean appetiser at Han Gang [2014: E O]

Free authentic Korean appetiser at Han Gang [2014: E O]

Modeum Gogi [2014: E O]

Modeum Gogi [2014: E O]

The beef were grilled with  Korean charcoal to bring an authentic taste and distinctive aroma [2014: E O]

The beef were grilled with Korean charcoal to bring an authentic taste and distinctive aroma [2014: E O]

Ready to eat! [2014: EO]

Ready to eat! [2014: EO]

 

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Notes: One More Time…

From my wildest imagination

….. He said that he would never be with her, would never but he used to tell her that he wanted to be with her one day. Not just once he told her that he wanted to be with her one day… but many times. Everyday… she  was counting down the days and looking forward to that day. Unfortunately … instead of getting closer to that day, that day seemed to go away.

No more warm conversation but argument, no more laughters but tears and no more trust but doubt …. Their relationship was falling apart. She was very upset….  She lost the direction, she did not know where to go, she did not know what to say…. her heart was broken into pieces.

Wow! He would never be mine and we would never be just us two. Would never… not even a chance to try to be together… I couldn’t believe it. How could it be? Is it for real? My feeling was real but my dream seems to not be real… How could it be?” she asked herself in that corner.

That night … he got down on his knees, looked into her teary sad eyes to say sorry. Sorry for breaking her heart, sorry for telling her lies, sorry for hurting her, sorry for destroying her dream .. her dream to be with him in there future. He was being really sorry but was he really being sorry? She did not know… Her heart was broken for one more time ….

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Notes: Nirbhaya Had an Abortion

This is a story between me and her, the woman who has an abortion two years ago in the foreign land. I had an imaginary conversation with her while we were enjoying a glass of cold coconut ice in my living room this afternoon.  She allowed me to share our conversation.

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Her name is Nirbhaya. Her name means fearless. Nirbhaya, she is a 26 years old fearless woman, who are not afraid taking risk to get something that she wants for herself, for her own happiness. She is never afraid taking any risk at all, no matter how dangerous it is.

But last night she was upset. She had an untold story that she had been keeping for herself. Well, actually she had told some of her friends about this but still she felt that they do not understand and will never understand how she felt inside. She is still feeling the pain.

So here is her story…

Two years ago in the foreign land, Nirbhaya had an abortion of six weeks fetus in her womb.

Wow… an abortion? That is something that I have never thought that I would ever do in my life. Would never.” Nirbhaya started her story to me. “But I had to do it anyway because my man did not want it and I was not particularly ready to be a mother. I just couldn’t imagine that I would be a mother. I still wanna have fun…

Honestly, I had a moral issue with a woman, who did an abortion. However I always say to my friends that it is better to do an abortion than let the baby suffering in this cruel world. The worst is I did it too.” Nirbhaya went on.

It was an unforgettable cold Monday morning, on the third day of 2012. I had an abortion in the foreign land by myself.” she added.

You know what it means by having six weeks fetus in my womb? It means that the baby had developed tiny buds that will become arms and legs further along the line. Its heart is rapidly developing from a simple tube to the complex four chambers which pump blood around its body. This means that the heart beat can be identified easier. And I took my own child life.” she went on.

I vividly remembered the first night after I had an abortion, I heard a baby crying. I felt that my baby  haunted me,” she added.

I am just listening to Nirbhaya.

I tried to share my feeling with my man about this sometimes but he often refused to talk about it. Instead he wanted me to forget about it but it was not easy. I don’t know… despite the fact I was not ready to be a mother, sometimes I just think if my baby is still alive today, he or she would be one and half years old kid, who runs around in the house and keeps me busy. I believe he or she would be very attractive and active kid. And the greatest is that kid would call me mommy or ibu.” she said.

But he or she is not here, would never be here but it would always be in my mind. And to be honest…. I regret what I did even it is the best decision to do, it was the worst mistake that I ever did in my entire life,” she went on.

You know what Fani? Sometimes I heard a baby crying at night, my baby keeps haunting me until today and it makes me really upset. But I was lucky to find a clinic, which practice abortion legally…I was so lucky” Nirbhaya said to me. 

The funny part about that day was somehow the radio played How to Love song by Lil Wayne. Do you know that music video right where it was opened with the woman, who was about going to terminate her baby but she decided to keep the baby and showed her baby girl how  to love. I wish I was that woman. But it was the best decision anyhow.”  she went on.

What I want was just one that my man would have ear for me whenever my guilty feeling comes haunted me. Why? It is because I would never forget about the third day of 2012 that I took the life of my own blood. I just cannot forgive myself to do the abortion even it was the best decision. The pain is still there and perhaps would always be there. It pains me a lot that I killed my own blood but I am glad that my man is willing to talk about it sometimes…”  she said.

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Discussing such an issue (abortion) openly to our friend is not particularly easy to do it in our community (Indonesian society) simply because of the moral issue. But personally, I support an abortion, especially when the parents are unable to take the responsibility. I just hate the idea seeing kids suffering because parents are unable to take their responsibility to take care of their kids. However it is important to do it legally for the safety’s sake.

Anyway, I am glad that I could share her experience in this blog. Sometimes I wonder how many women are willing to come out to share their abortion experience to the public and why are they willing to do so? Well, I guess it is one way to ease their burden regardless the judgment that they would receive from the community.

One thing that I could say tho… we are only human, we make mistake intentionally or accidentally to other or to ourselves. But always remember that only God can judge us and not other fellow human being because in the end of the day we carry our own cross. Right?

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PS: Sharing our burden to our close people is the best way to ease the pain that we feel in our life. The funny thing is it is easier to share it with our friend than our own family because friends appear to have a better understanding than family. But keep in mind that  that there are a lot of rats out there, which would use it against you when you have a problem with them.

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Indonesia: Basuki Tjahaja Purnama “Ahok”

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Indonesia: Joko “Jokowi” Widodo

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Indonesia: Prabowo

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Alert: Black Money Scam

Few weeks ago, a friend of mine told us a story that he became the victim of Black Money Scam few years ago by some African men in Jakarta. It was not unfamiliar in my ear. Once I nearly fell as a victim one day in 2011 by my dear friend that I just met.

A friend showed me a white-blank note and a couple bottle of chemical liquid. He told me that he could turn the blank note to be a 100 USD note. He showed me the process but later he said that he couldn’t complete the process because he did not have a complete chemical liquid to wash the money. But it was nearly look like a 100 USD bill. “Wow! Is that real?” I said to myself.

So the next day, I told my co-worker, who was posted at the Indonesia’s Attorney General office, he told me that it was not real money and it is better that I stayed away from my new friend. But I was still curious I searched it online and apparently that it was a dirty business, it was a crime that is known as Black Scam Money.

Black Scam Money is a scam where a con artist attempt to obtain money by persuading the victims with a whole-pile of banknote-sized paper in a trunk. The con artist usually would claim that the money have been dyed black or another colour to avoid detection by customs. Later, the victim would be persuaded to pay for chemical liquid to wash the money with a promise that he would share in the proceed.

So how is the process conducted? First of all, the scammer would send a million of emails => the scammers would approach the victims =>the scammers would ask for an advance fee => the scammers would ask for more money to purchase chemical liquid to wash the money => victims go to see the money in the trunk =>washing a small sample of black money => more money to wash the money but there is no money. (You can check the full detail here)

As I never asked him again, he never pursued me again to be his client because one reasons and another but we remain friends because I simply want to give the benefit of doubt. Therefore, if you received this kind of email on Facebook

Hello, how are you doing, I hope you are in good condition of health? I’m Brian Wesley, Sorry, if i suddenly visit your profile. Can we be very good friend? if you do, am willing to know much about you. thanks.

or

i have an investment proposal but am not sure if you will be interested , as i see your profile that your very hard working and already own your own business, i am a military contractor in Iraq, and some of the US Army who serve in Iraq discover some money from Saddam Hussein warehouse. the want to transfer the money to Indonesia and want me to look for some body reliable and have her own business , as the plan to stay in Indonesia Bali after the finish there Job, i want to convince them transfer the money to you so you can use it to expand you business and make profit before the end of the year, please reply to me if your interested to my email”

Please do not respond to any of it before you fall as a victim. Do not accept any invitation meeting because they will play with your head and heart. As soon as you meet them, if they gain trust from you and start to ask for money or fancy stuff such as fancy watch.

I see this business is very cruel, it is the betrayal of trust business. They know when to start and they know when to stop it. They know very well how to twist the situations. You have worked hard to earn those money but those scammers just want to steal your sweat. Interestingly enough, those scammers tend to go to church on Sunday but steal money from hardworking people on the working days. They are very heartless and have been eaten by their greed!

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Alert: Scam-Fraud

Dear readers,

If you ever receive e-mail in your Facebook inbox, Yahoo inbox and G-mail inbox, please ignore it as it is a fraud. Those people, behind the email, know how to play with your head well! Do not accept any meeting invitation and reply those message.

i have an investment proposal but am not sure if you will be interested , as i see your profile that your very hard working and already own your own business, i am a military contractor in Iraq, and some of the US Army who serve in Iraq discover some money from Saddam Hussein warehouse. the want to transfer the money to Indonesia and want me to look for some body reliable and have her own business , as the plan to stay in Indonesia Bali after the finish there Job, i want to convince them transfer the money to you so you can use it to expand you business and make profit before the end of the year, please reply to me if your interested to my email

or

    Good Day,

Have you thought of getting a legitimate loan provider where you would
like to re invest after much dividends? Grab this life time financial
offer and give your business, education, homes and construction a lift.
$5,000 to $200,0000,000 with a maximum of 30 years at 3%. Contact us
with the information below so that we can proceed. .

1. Full Names:2. Contact Address:3. Loan Amount Needed:4. Duration of the
loan.5. Direct telephone number:6. Purpose of the Loan: Send all
application this email: k.greenprivateloanfirm1@armenian.me.uk

Mr.Kelvin Green.
Loan/Financial Providers.
©2013.

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Dear Friend,

I need your urgent business assistance in transferring an abandoned sum of ($2.3Million) dollars left by a deceased customer of my bank immediately to your account. If you are interested and ready to partake in this great business opportunity,kindly get back to me for more details on how the business will be executed and also note that you will receive 40% of the above mentioned amount if you agree to help me execute this business. Reply to this email address if you are interested (szamuelg@yahoo.fr)

Respectfully,
Mr. Samuel Zongo.

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Notes: Ed-ucation

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We are living in a competitive world [2014: EO]

We are living in a competitive world [2014: EO]

I never really know what George’s education background. I never know whether he really went to university or not. I would say that George is actually a pretty smart man but he is not a book wise kind of person, who could tell you the story of the Cold War or the story of the author of Odyssey or the Island of Ogygia or even The Electron.

George is a life wise kind of person, coming from small town of Nigeria. He has been travelling around Africa and Asia to find means to improve his life as he hates the poverty. He would do anything to generate money and improve his life.

Anyway, as a father of two, George always said to be that being a father is a very big responsibility, he wants that his kids get the best education so they would not live a life like him. I would say, I was pretty touched by that. That’s what I like about him.

For me, education is a basic foundation for anyone to live in this competitive yet challenging life. Everyone should learn as much as they can because it could determine their future as everyone deserves a good future. However, education is not enough, our spiritual and bodily power would add extra value into our life as an individual.

Everybody deserves a good life [2014: E O]

Everybody deserves a good life [2014: E O]

Hence, I agree that he should provide an excellent education for his kids because we are living in a competitive world. Unless you become an entrepreneur and choose to be an employee of multinational big company, you must have an excellent education.

But what I don’t understand is while he is complaining that he doesn’t have penny, he often purchased for fancy stuff such as Dolce&Gabbana outfit, Valentino outfit, Kenzo shoes, Emporio Armani suits or Roberto Cavalli shoes. So now my question is being, how would he provide an excellent education for his two cute boys while he just shop to satisfy himself?

I was happy that there were a couple of occasions when I gave him several books for his children and help him to choose an encyclopaedia for them. I hope that it would be useful for them. I just hope that they would really get a good education in the future. I just really hope that they can grow as smart kids with good education. Hence, they would be able to get a legal job, which pay them with proper salary and live a good life. Everybody deserve a good future.

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Notes: Stereotype and Lies

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Only God can judge me-Tupac Shakur [2014:E O]

Only God can judge me-Tupac Shakur [2014:E O]

Once my friend George (not his real name) told me that as an African, he is very annoyed and dissapointed with the stereotype attached to African people, who are always labeled as drug dealers, fraudster or criminal in Indonesia or in other part of the world. He felt that it is not fair to label them that.

Well, I understand with what he felt as I am a woman, who is married to a Westerner, tend to be judged as a bule hunter and gold digger. Being labeled with any kind of stereotype is never fun at all. In fact, it is very hurtful.

But for me, it is very important to ask ourselves what should we do to change society’s point of view about us? In my own opinion, we should do the opposite of what people say to prove that we are not what they think we are. We need to educate them.

If society labeled you as a fraudster then try to find a real job even it only gives you small amount of money. If society labeled you as a gold digger then try to work hard and live on your own income. And for me, when the society labeled me as a bule hunter, I am trying to prove it with my upcoming book about the life of Asian women who are married or in relationship  with bule. (Someone tried to stop me to publish the book, which is a very stupid idea. Who do you think you are? You are not my mother!)

So either you have to ignore what society say or you have to make some changing. For me, it is very important to make some changing about the ugly stereotype, which is attached to me.

Anyway, George used to tell me that many African men tend to hide their identity in this country because they do not want to be judged especially there are many Nigerian, who are committed into drug distribution in Indonesia. He felts very insecure to reveal the real identity about himself. Why? It is because he was very annoyed that African people tend to be the target of police operation, be it is drug distribution or fraud.

Other than that, by being opening themselves about who they are, they are afraid that people would use the information against him. Well… I would say that people would use their real information against them because you might have done something bad to them as well, e.g cheat on other people money, cheat on your lover or force your lover to do abortion without really care about it.

I don’t mean to justify any negative action but aren’t we living in the competitive world where people are looking eye for an eye to survive? Again, there is nothing wrong for being true about yourself to other people. It is because once you lie, you would always lie and you would live on a fake life of yours. The worst is when the truth is revealed, it would hurt yourself and people around you.

I am not saying that I never lie. I am not holier than anyone. I guess everybody lie but when lie become one of your habit, people would lose trust on you in so many ways. I have been cheated in so many ways by my dear brother George. I have forgiven him so many times because he apologised and kneeled down on his knee.

But the thing is when lie becomes your habit, you tend to tell fables to anyone for the rest of his life. Unless a liar has a strong willing to change, a liar would stay as a liar. There is a Javanese proverb says “Gusti ora sare” (God never sleeps), what goes around would definitely comes around in His own time, in His own way.

Having said all of that, my question is now being should we hide our identity simply because of the stereotype? Or should we prove that society wrong? Or the fact that the society was correct with the stereotype to us that is why one must lie? Well… only you can answer it.

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