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Catatan: Numpang Hidup sama Mister

Beberapa waktu yang lalu, saya mendapatkan sebuah SMS yang membuat bulu kuduk berdiri lalu tersenyum simpul. Sebuah nomor yang tidak saya kenal, mencaci maki saya. Basically, si pengirim SMS gelap menuduh saya numpang hidup sama suami saya yang notabene adalah bule alias londo alias orang barat. Maklum orang barat sering dianggap sebagai orang kaya oleh kebanyakan masyarakat Indonesia.

Berbagai pertanyaan muncul di kepala saya”Who is this?“, “What does she want from me?“, “How does (S)he knows my full name?” Entahlah. Saya pikir enggak ada gunanya untuk menggubris SMS semacam itu.

Lucunya si pengirim SMS gelap sepertinya benar-benar sayang dengan saya. Hari Sabtu kemarin, saya kembali mendapatkan SMS gelap dari nomor  yang berbeda, lagi-lagi nomor saya yang enggak dikenal. Dengan bahasa yang sama, saya menduga bahwa si pengirim adalah orang yang berpendidikan rendah atau bahkan enggak pernah mengenyam bangku pendidikan. Kenapa saya berpikir seperti itu? Mudah saja, saya bisa membacanya dari kalimat dan pemilihan kata yang digunakan.

Si pengirim SMS gelap kembali mencaci saya dengan menyebut saya “pelacur”, “pengangguran” dan “cewek matre”. Belum lagi dia berkata demikian “Lu kan sekelas pembantu. Bisa hidup enak karena laki lu bule.” Kesal dan jengkel namun lagi-lagi saya dibuat tertawa oleh SMS ini. Dicaci kok malah ketawa sih?

Well… tentu saja saya tertawa. Lagi-lagi saya mendengar celetukan org yang sudah termakan stereotype bahwa cewek Indonesia nikah dengan orang Barat hanya untuk numpang hidup. Perempuan Indonesia dengan kulit coklat dan pendek dan menikah/berhubungan dengan bule ‘dimasukkan’ dalam kelas pembantu. Aduh-aduh…. ini kan lucu! Kelas pembantu itu seperti apa sih?

Belum lagi beberapa waktu yang lalu saya baru saja mengeluarkan buku berjudul “Bule Hunter”, sebuah catatan tentang perempuan-perempuan pemburu bule yang selama ini kerap dicap negatif oleh masyarakat baik oleh masyarakat lokal atau oleh orang barat. Entah dicap sebagai gold digger, slut, bertampang babu dan sebagainya.

JUST BECAUSE tuan-tuan londho (orang Barat) kerap dianggap sebagai Paman Gober atau Mesin ATM. And of course, it creates jealousy because ‘perempuan dari kelas pembantu’ mendadak jadi ‘orang kaya’. Padahal belum tahu saja kalau enggak sedikit dari mister-mister tersebut yang juga kere. Ya toh?

Anyway…. lucunya lagi saya dibilang pengangguran. Waduh-waduh ha ha ha. Hanya karena saya ke kantor tidak pakai seragam,  saya dibilang pengangguran. Hanya karena saya dapat bekerja dari rumah dan memiliki office hour yang berbeda, saya dibilang pengangguran. Lucu sekali ini!

Biar kata gaji saya kecil (dibanding gaji suami saya), saya lebih memilih untuk makan hasil keringat saya sendiri. Suatu kebahagiaan ketika saya melihat angka di rekening saya berubah menjelang akhir bulan. I can say to myself ‘That’s my hard work!’. But I think that I owe nobody any explanation. Let them judge me as they want it! However before you judge other, make sure that you are perfect!

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Indonesia Has Decided: President Jokowi and VP JK

Vox populi, vox Dei [2014: EO]

Vox populi, vox Dei [2014: EO]

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Indonesia: Jogja Istimewa

Jogja Jogja tetap istimewa

Istimewa negerinya istimewa orangnya

Jogja Jogja tetap istimewa

Jogja istimewa untuk Indonesia
Rungokno iki GATRA seko Ngayogyakarta

Negeri paling penak rasane koyo swargo

Ora peduli dunyo dadi neroko

Ning kene tansah edi peni lan mardiko
Tanah lahirkan tahta, TAHTA UNTUK RAKYAT

Di mana rajanya bersemi di Kalbu rakyat

Demikianlah singgasana bermartabat

Berdiri kokoh untuk mengayomi rakyat
Memayu hayuning bawono

Seko jaman perjuangan nganti merdeko

Jogja istimewa bukan hanya daerahnya

Tapi juga karena orang-orangnya
Tambur wis ditabuh, suling wis muni

Holopis kuntul baris ayo dadi siji

Bareng poro prajurit lan senopati

MUKTI utowo mati manunggal kawulo gusti
Menyerang tanpa pasukan

Menang tanpa merendahkan

Kesaktian tanpa ajianKekayaan tanpa kemewahan
Tenang bagai ombak gemuruh laksana merapi

Tradisi hidup di tengah modernisasi

Rakyatnya njajah deso milang kori

Nyebarake seni lan budhi pekerti
Elingo kabare Sri Sultan Hamengku Buwono Kaping IX

Sakduwur-duwure sinau kudune dhewe tetep wong jowo

Diumpamake kacang kang ora ninggalke lanjaran

Marang bumi sing nglairake dewe tansah kelingan
Ing ngarso sung tulodoIng madya mangun karso

Tut wuri handayaniHolopis kuntul baris ayo dadi siji
Sepi ing pamrih rame ing nggawe

Sejarah ning kene wis mbuktikake

Jogja istimewa bukan hanya tuk dirinya

Jogja istimewa untuk Indonesia

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Indonesia: Salam Dua Jari

Berikut lirik lagu Salam 2 Jari:

Salam dua jari
Jangan lupa pilih Jokowi
Salam dua jari
Nomor 2 pilih Jokowi

Aku cari pemimpin bukan pemimpi
Yang kerjanya terbukti
Bukan cuma iklan di tv

Salam dua jari
Jangan lupa pilih Jokowi
Salam dua jari
Nomor 2 pilih jokowi

Dari Sabang sampai Merauke
Walau beda tetap ok
Salam dua jari
Jangan lupa pilih Jokowi
Salam dua jari
Nomor 2 pilih Jokowi

Elo santai gw santai
Biar beda kita tetap damai
Salam dua jari
Jangan lupa pilih Jokowi
Salam dua jari
Nomor 2 pilih Jokowi

Dari mata turun ke hati
Kita memang revolusi harmoni
Salam dua jari
Jangan lupa pilih Jokowi
Salam dua jari
Nomor 2 pilih Jokowi
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Indonesia: Discrimination at The Ministry of Agriculture

“The Ministry Agriculture, which is controlled by Prosperous Justice Party (PKS), 73 Christian government official have been fired and none have been replaced in the last nine years. In fact at this very moment, there is no Christian government official at Ministry of Agriculture. It tells you something, doesn’t it? It must tell you something. The government of Indonesia must stop this discrimination.” said businessman Hashim Djojohadikusumo, brother of Prabowo Subianto, the presidential candidate from the Gerindra.

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Review: The Magic of Homemade Rice and Coffee Scrub

Do know you that coffee bean and rice grain have a great benefit for your skin? [2014: EO]

Do know you that coffee bean and rice grain have a great benefit for your skin? [2014: EO]

In these last few years, I have been having a hard time to deal with my skin (oily and acne) problem. I have been seeing a number of dermatologist, purchasing the best a.k.a expensive skin care product and spending million rupiah to get rid of it but all I got was just a constant disappointment. Nothing worked well and caused me dependency! So, after the “innovation” of toothpaste face mask to get rid my acne, which works well and I still apply it to my face, I just discovered that I also can get rid of dull skin, black spot and to have a glowing skin by making my own homemade facial and body scrub with coffee bean and rice grain. How come? Below is the fun fact! According to my internet research, Dr. Leslie Baumann, a dermatologist at the University of Miami, was quoted by Elle Magazine Canada, mentioned that the caffeine in coffee can help to smoothen the skin and also remove the skin cancer cell by sun damage. She added that caffeine is an antioxidant, it helps to shrink the blood vessel and dehydrates fat cells.

Homemade coffee and rice scrub [2014:EO]

Homemade coffee and rice scrub [2014:EO]

Other than that, an article on Livestrong.com mentioned that coffee scrub can help to treat the redness and inflammation, get rid of cellulite and also smoothen the skin. In addition to that, coffee scrub also can help to get rid the dark under-eye circle. Meanwhile  Caroline Frazer, a skincare expert, was quoted by dailymail.co.uk, pointed out that that rice scrub helps to smoothen and brighten the skin because it contains pro-vitamin B5 and vitamin E. The article also mentioned that rice has been used by Japanese to get flawless skin for hundred years.

Applying the homemade rice and coffee facial scrub [2014: EO]

Applying the homemade rice and coffee facial scrub [2014: EO]

So….. since I found out about the great benefit of coffee and rice for my skin, I have been continuously making my own homemade facial scrub from coffee and rice on daily basis. Everyday, I scrub my face with it especially after I did an outdoor workout or used a make up, i.e powder. And guess what? After a month I applied it to my face, I have started to see the result of it where my facial skin is brighter, smother, firmer and glowing. Of course, I have been aware that it DOES NOT give me AN INSTANT best result but I see that the result comes GRADUALLY. Nowadays, I can start to see that the result coming, where I have so much less acne comparing than before. If I do have acne, it usually comes only 1 or 2 before my menstruation comes. On the top of that, I also can confidently go out with  my face naked, i.e I don’t have to use any foundation or bb cream to cover up my dull facial skin anymore. However sometimes I am still using powder, it depends on the occasion.  You can see the different on the picture below!

Before using the magic coffee and rice scrub! FYI, I wore make-up in this photo [2014: E O]

Before using the magic coffee and rice scrub! FYI, I wore make-up in this photo [2014: E O]

My naked face! No foundation, no powder, no heavy make-up! [2014:EO]

My naked face! No foundation, no powder, no heavy make-up! [2014:EO]

So how do you make your homemade rice and coffee scrub? It is very easy! Just grind two table spoon of rice and a table spoon of coffee bean together. Mix the powder with either mineral water, olive oil or honey. For me, I usually mix it with water only as I don’t particularly believe that the olive oil or honey that I bought 100 percent organic or natural. I am worried if it might contain some chemical, which might be harmful for my skin. You know … business people are tricky. They claim their product to be organic meanwhile some of them are not. So I rather to use mineral water. Lol! FYI, I also use the rice and coffee scrub for my body. I am glad that I found this great secret natural beauty recipe, which costs me small fortune and works well. I also don’t have to be worried with any chemical side effect for my face anymore because it is all organic and so far I have no side bad effect from it. Now I can save my money that I have been spending for skincare treatment product, which never worked, for something else.

Goodbye expensive skincare products! [2014: EO]

Goodbye expensive skincare products! [2014: EO]

It is amazing that actually we can find a health treatment in our own home. It is natural, organic and inexpensive. And you know…. this great “innovation” really helps me to minimise my spending  on cosmetic as well as helps me to minimize my consumption on chemical products, which tend to have a negative effect to my body. So farewell expensive chemical facial skin care products! signature

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Music: Drop It Like Hot by Snoop Dogg

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Music: Drunk In Love by Beyonce

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Notes: Are You Better Than Other?

Who am I to judge? [2014: E O]

Who am I to judge? [2014: E O]

For me… life is about learning process. As I reflect into it, I see that we are as human being are pretty arrogant toward each other especially when it comes to social status, jobs, education or money.

Some people ask me “Why do you want to hang around with criminal, thief or  liar?” Well, I hang around with sex workers, I hang around with street thugs, I hang around with criminal and I also hang around with lesbian, gay, transgender community. Those people tend to be labeled as “bad people” in our society. We divided ourselves into group with our brain.

The question that I asked myself is who are we to judge? What makes you better than other? Does hang around with those people make me bad? Are bad people always bad? Are good people always good? What is the definition of bad and good people?

Since I was young, I like to learn from other people and people always have two side of coin, the good and the bad. I like to hang around with anyone to give me perspective of life, which I don’t get it in the school or book. 

Some people might not understand it why I would hang around with them, I even have a close relationship with them. If they bring the good into our life, which is not merely material things but our behaviour, then why not?

Funny to see how arrogant we are as human and always feel better than other. Meanwhile we are only human, where in the end of our life, we would die, become corpse and return to the dust.

What makes us better than other? Is it just our job? Our education background? Our family background? Our social status? Our skin colour? With all of those that you can buy with money, are you sure that you are better than other? Let’s see ourselves in the mirror! Shall we?! signature

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Notes: Being Healthy

Gym time [2014:EO]

Gym time [2014:EO]

I have been going to gym three or four times a week lately. Somehow I am madly in love with exercise but let me tell you a story why I become a gym freak lately.

Honestly, I have never been in love with sport  until I moved to Jakarta. I used to think that doing sport is just time consuming, wasting time and exhausting. I have never thought about the benefit of it for my body and my health.

Back when I was still in elementary and high school,  I never took the sport class seriously. Somehow I still vividly remember whenever our teacher asked the students to run around the school field before the sport class was started, number of students, including myself, chose to walk. I would say that back that time most of the students were excited with sport class because it was done outdoor and it was time to chit-chat with our classmate. However now, I have different point of view about sport and the importance of it for my health.

So here my gym love’s story began. Back to 2010 when  I moved to Jakarta for the very first time, I was drown into a very bad big city lifestyle and routine, stressful life with frustration. I worked from 10 a.m to 8 p.m sometimes 9 p.m, would eat late and eat whatever is available, I did not manage to have enough sleep or a good quality sleep well and on the weekend, I would go out to have some cocktail or wine with my friends until I got drunk. It went that way week after week, after week and after week. I didn’t pay attention on my own health and always felt that I was strong.

Can you imagine how bad my lifestyle was, how my money wasted, how my body was slowly damaged and how bad the impact into on my body and spirit because of those bad lifestyle and routine? It was terribly bad! I had no idea about being healthy and I lived a very bad yet stressful lifestyle.

Jogging Track [2014: E O]

Jogging Track [2014: E O]

But things changed in 2011 since I met my dawg, George. You know sometimes many people say that the reason they sign up for gym membership because they want to get skinny or have a sexy body but George has different story. He told me an interesting story about why he loves sport so much and how important being healthy is, it got nothing to do with being skinny but about to be healthy.

Somehow, his story inspired me and I decided to sign up for gym membership in the nearest fitness centre in my apartment complex in South Jakarta. Of course as I was not familiar with fitness centre, I also decided to hire personal trainer for nearly six months to get myself familiar with the gym equipment, the exercise program and also the diet.

Honestly, I found it difficult to get myself discipline to go to gym at least three times a week at the very beginning. It is because (once again) going to fitness centre is such a time consuming and it’s too complicated to bring gym bag before going to work. But I realized that it is all about willing in ourselves by ourselves, it is about courage in ourselves by ourselves.

As time passed by, I started to enjoy working out at the gym when I felt the result of working out, I felt more fresh, strong and less stress. I have to admit that exercise at the gym is pretty is tiring activity but I would say that it is different kind of tiredness compared to tiredness from our daily routine. Now it has been more than two years since I signed up for gym membership. I tried my best to manage my time to go to gym at least twice a week, regardless my routine.

One thing that I learn about engaging with sport activities is that it teaches us to be discipline with ourselves, e.g discipline in managing our time between working, exercise and resting. It also teaches us to appreciate our body and physical health.

However  clearly everybody has different motivation when they sign up for the gym, some people sign up the gym membership for ‘image’ a.k.a status, some want to get skinny, some want to reduce their weight and some want to be healthy. Me, I want to be healthy because I know how uncomfortable it is to be unhealthy and take medicine every morning simply to be healthy.

Source of vitamin [2014: E O]

Source of vitamin [2014: E O]

Meanwhile the aesthetic result of exercise is my second reason why I go to gym. Hence, I also need to pay attention on what I consume, i.e I eat less fatty and junk food; I consume less sugar, I don’t take soda  and also I cut down my alcohol intake on the weekend.

For me, living a healthy lifestyle means that we have to be discipline in managing our selves, it also means that we appreciate and love ourselves. If we are healthy, we can do anything with a happy feeling. Don’t you think so?

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