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Notes: Swipe To The Right or Left?

I just want to share a short thought about #Tinder, the latest dating or hookup mobile phone application. 

Tinder is not a new mobile phone application to me. I have heard about Tinder since last year. As always, whenever there is a new mobile application, I tend to install and sign up to it. I simply want to  understand what it is all about.

Some people said that Tinder is a dating apps, some said that it’s a hookup apps. Overall,  it helps the users to find somebody in their liking for certain purpose, i.e looking for lover or casual partners. The users can just swipe to the right if they like it or swipe to the left if they do not like it as simple as that.

I talked to some of Tinder users to understand the phenomenon. Some of them said that they use Tinder to look for phuck-buddies while some are in search of soulmate in the net. Tinder was launched in 2012, it gains popularity within smartphone users and it also gets a lot of media exposure, including by NYT as well as Vanity Fair Mag.

However, I must say that I found no novelty in Tinder. Tinder has similar principle as dating sites before the era of smartphone. Even so, I still found it interesting. I see that there are some women and men expect finding Mr.Right and Mrs. Right, while the other group expect to get as many phuck buddies as possible and only few Tinder’s users are genuinely willing, wanting or looking for friends.  

Other than that,  what I found it interesting is many people who are in relationship openly claim that they are cheating on their partners because of boring sex life. I hear these stuff from some men that I have been talking to “I am married but let’s leave my personal life aside.” Or “Good sex or running? Sex is an exercise as well.” Or “I have a long term girlfriend, we live together and she is a good girl but sometimes our sex life gets boring.” On the other hand, there are also some hypocrisy among the Tinder users. One of my Tinder friends said to me “Some girls say that “no hook-up” but as soon as the man uploaded shirtless photo with six packs, they said yes for hook-up“. 

According to some online chatting, many Tinder users claimed having an awesome job and appear to be very successful. Some of them claimed that they are bankers, lawyers,  govt officers, artists, entreprenuers, etc but I can hardly confirm there claim. However, many of them actually do not care who you are and what you do especially those who seek for casual partners. At the end, I concluded humans have become “products” in an online catalogue as soon as they use Tinder or other dating sites or apps.

Interestingly enough, as soon as they know I am a journalist, they just unmatch me. Unfortunately I found no match with female Tinder users. I am just fascinated with the world we are living these days. The modern it gets, the pathetic humans become and we end up being products behind the smartphone screen only. How ironic it is!

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Notes: Social Media’s Perfect Life

Almost everybody has social media accounts these days, be it Facebook, Instagram, Path or Twitter. Social media helps us to be in touch with our long lost friends, family members, schoolmates, coworkers as well as connects us with new people. They also give us a space to have a discussion about certain issues that matter to us. At the same time, social media also gives us the opportunity to see other people’s life. But one thing about social media is that it often makes an individual feel like bad about themselves.

Since the presence of social media, many people often compare themselves or their life circumstances to other people whenever they scroll down the screen. Sometimes social media users forget that everyone has their own unique journey. I somehow feel that it is actually not healthy to be able to see other people lives through social media. Why? It’s because we start to unfairly compare ourselves to them.

Remember that everyone has their own life struggle and it just comes in different forms for each person. Not just that, some people actually find their life difficult. Unfortunately we just do not really see the difficulty that people have. Social media users often try to post their perfect life, try to show off their life’s achievements. But who really knows the story behind all those posts?

Other than that, social media can also stop us ftom having a real interaction with our friends because it creates a lazy form of friendship, without real life human interaction. Even if they do hang out together, they would just be busy with their smartphone and post stuff in social media.

That is why I deleted my Path account, I deactivated my Facebook account few weeks ago temporarily. I just find it not useful. Yet, I keep my twitter account active to keep up with the latest news and I might activate my Facebook again sometime. Arrgg technology…

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Notes: Two Side Of A Coin

Somebody asked me “Aren’t you feeling ashamed to air your dirty laundry here?” So I answered “I often display the beautiful part of my life, today I air my dirty laundry at the same place. Why? Because I just wanna be a real person, there are two sides of a coin. Right?

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Science: The Benefit of Social Media Narcissism

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