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Notes: Past is Not Just a Memory

Past is not just a memory, it is not just history;

I always remember the first time you asked me to get back together;

Few days  after our first crazy fight when you kicked me out from your house;

I still vividly remembered those days when you knelt down on your knees;

You asking me to stay, asking for forgiveness;

I also still vividly remember you told me that I must fight for this relationship;

if I do really love you and value this relationship;

I have been, I always have been;

Yet, I failed. 

Jakarta, 27112014

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Catatan: Hedonisme & Penipuan Online 1

Teknologi mempermudah terjadinya cyber crime [2014:EO]

Teknologi mempermudah terjadinya cyber crime [2014:EO]

Pernah enggak sih kamu denggar  istilah romance scam, Nigerian scam, military scam, Facebook scam atau black money? Atau… pernah enggak sih kamu dapet email berisi tawaran bisnis bernilai jutaan dollar Amerika Serikat?

Atau…. pernah juga dapet friend request seorang warga negara asing yang mengaku anggota militer atau pebisnis dengan wajah yang sangat amat tampan? Well…. semuanya merupakan sebagian kecil  bentuk  dari internet fraud atau penipuan online yang marak dalam beberapa tahun terakhir ini di Indonesia. Pelaku penipuan tersebut biasanya disebut sebagai scammer.

Dari berbagai bentuk internet fraud yang terjadi, romance scam merupakan bentuk penipuan online yang paling populer dalam beberapa tahun terakhir ini dengan sasaran korban yang mayoritas adalah perempuan. Maklum bagi scammer, perempuan adalah obyek paling mudah untuk dimanipulasi, apalagi manipulasi perasaan. Walaupun ada juga laki-laki yang menjadi korban.

Menurut informasi dari berbagai sumber di internet, romance scam adalah sebuah penipuan yang dilakukan oleh seseorang dengan memanipulasi perasaan seseorang yang sedang membutuhkan kasih sayang dari seseorang untuk mendapatkan keuntungan finansial sehingga si pelaku dapat mendapatkan akses keuangan, rekening bank atau kartu kredit seseorang. Tapi perlu dicatet nih bahwa sebenernya romance scam bukanlah modus penipuan baru.

Sejak masyarakat memiliki akses internet dan melek teknologi, social media dan dating site kerap dijadakan sarana  oleh para pelaku romance scam. Biasanya si scammer bakal nyolong foto bule tampan dengan seragam tentara, foto artis Hollywood atau bahkan foto polisi Indonesia yang ganteng dari internet (so hati-hati kalau upload foto ya!), lalu  menggunakan foto hasil curian dengan untuk melakukan aksinya.

Menurut saya, bagi sebagian besar masyarakat Indonesia, internet merupakan sebuah dolanan baru. Masyarakat belum teredukasi secara baik bagaimana menggunakan internet. Masyarakat masih cenederung menggunakan internet untuk ‘bermain’ social media untuk berkawan ketimbang menggunakannya sebagai media pembelajaran. Walaupun perlu dicatet bahwa enggak semuanya begitu.

Jadi bisa dibilang, perempuan mana yang yang berbunga-bunga kalau dapat friend request dari cowok ganteng. Belum lagi kalau si cowok ternyata single, romantis dan kaya pula? Siapa yang enggak klepek-klepek? Ya kan…?

Setelah berkenalan, si pelaku akan melakukan aksinya dengan bersikap romantis, memberikan panggilan sayang seperti ‘baby, honey, sweetheart, sayang atau cinta’; memberikan harapan palsu akan sebuah pernikahan yang sempurna bak dalam film Hollywood.

Biasanya pelaku mengatakan pada si korban bahwa mereka akan mengirimkan sebuah hadiah bernilai ratusan sampai jutaan USD namun korban diminta untuk membayar bea cukai. Di sinilah para pelaku mulai melakukan aksi penipuan mereka.

Tahun lalu tempo.co melansir beberapa berita tentang penipuan online di Indonesia. Pada bulan Maret 2013, Polisi Polda Metro Jaya menangkap sepasang suami istri, Mathias Udhie (25)  warga negara Nigeria, dan Waraswati (36) yang telah melakukan penipuan terhadap seorang pengusaha garmen asal Indonesia dengan total kerugian Rp 1,78 miliar.

Menariknya Komisaris Jerry Raimond yang saat itu menjabat sebagai Kepala Unit III Reserse Mobile Direktorat Reserse Kriminal Umum Polda Metro Jaya bilang bahwa komplotan penipuan online banyak dilakukan oleh warga negara Afrika yang sebagian besar adalah warga negara Nigeria, Liberia dan Kamerun.

Selain itu, Komisaris Jerry juga menyebutkan bahwa komplotan penipu tersebut biasanya tidak bekerja sendirian namun mengajak beberapa perempuan asli Indonesia. Eng… ing… eng!

Meskipun perlu diakui bahwa akhir-akhir ini marak pula penipuan online yang juga dilakukan oleh warga negara Indonesia yang menggunakan foto perwira TNI, anggota POLRI, dokter atau pilot.

Ngeliat fenomena ini, saya enggak mau menggunakan religious approach, bahasa akademik ketinggian atau bahkan membully untuk mengkomentari si korban. Saya jadi penasaran aja, mengapa mereka alias pelaku melakukan hal ini? Mengapa mereka rela menyakiti orang lain demi keuntungan sendiri? Apa motivasi mereka?

Di satu sisi, saya berpikir…. “Well… bukankah kehidupan memang seperti itu? Kita, manusia, akan melakukan apapun untuk perut kita. Namanya juga manusia. Namun namanya juga manusia, rakus. Sekalinya berhasil mereka akan ketagihan terus dan terus. Lalu pada akhirnya, bukan lagi urusan perut tapi urusan gaya hidup.

Saya jadi teringat salah satu lagu bang Iwan Fals berjudul Opiniku. Pernah dengar lagu tersebut?  Begini liriknya.

Manusia sama saja dengan binatang selalu perlu makan. Namun cara berbeda dalam memperoleh makanan ll Binatang tak mempunyai akal dan pikiran segara cara halalkan demi perut kenyang. Binatang tak pernah tau rasa belas kasihan, padahal di sekitarnya tertatih berjalan pincang ll Namun kadanhkala ada manusia yang seperti binatang bahkan lebih keji dari binatang. ll Tampar kiri kanan, alasan untuk makan. Padahal semua tahu dia serba kecukupan. Himpit kiri kanan, lalu curi jatah orang peduli sahabat kental kurus kering kelaparan.

Bisa dibilang bahwa saya menyalahkan media yang kerap mempromosikan atau menggembar-gemborkan gaya hidup hedonisme yang cenderung yang tidak dapat dibayar oleh masyarakat pada umumnya. Mulai dari pakaian seharga 1,000 USD sampai jam tangan seharga 130,000 USD. Orang-orang seolah-olah bangga menggunakan uang dan merek pada tubuh mereka, tidak hanya perempuan tapi juga laki-laki.

Brengsek betul media, ya toh? Mulai dari televisi, majalah, film bahkan sampai musik. Mereka tidak henti-hentinya bicara masalah uang. Kita, manusia, jadi budak uang! Eittts… saya sendiri juga pekerja di industri media lho!

Belum lagi dengan adanya social media. Orang-orang berlomba-lomba memamerkan apa yang mereka uang yang mereka kenakan melalui foto-foto mereka, baik sengaja maupun enggak sengaja -alesan banget ya?-. Oh don’t get me wrong .. I am no saint, I’ve done that too before or sometimes still. I am only human dawg :-).

Tapi saya menyadari bahwa hal tersebut menimbulkan kecemburuan sosial, membuat kawan  jadi lawan; membuat kita jadi musuh bersama karena kemewahan.

Terus apa kaitannya gaya hidup hedonisme dengan penipuan online termasuk romance scam? Kaitannya adalah baik pelaku maupun korban keduanya telah menjadi korban gaya hidup hedonisme yang selama ini ditawarkan oleh media, yang cenderung berupa imaginative life.

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Photo: Canada in Frame 2

My first cup of second cup [2014: EO]

My first cup of second cup [2014: EO]

A Vista of The Bay of Funday [2014:EO]

A Vista of The Bay of Fundy [2014:EO]

Domaine de Grand Pré vineyards, Nova Scotia [2014:EO]

Domaine de Grand Pré vineyards, Nova Scotia [2014:EO]

101 Apple [2014:EO]

101 Apple [2014:EO]

There Is No Such Thing of A Secret Recipe [2014:EO]

There Is No Such Thing of A Secret Recipe [2014:EO]

 

Separated by the Atlantic Ocean [2014:E O]

Separated by the Atlantic Ocean [2014:E O]

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Spirituality: Hamsa

Got this antique pair of hamsa earrings at St. Lawrence Sunday Antique Market. It is only for 20 $. Hamsa prayer: Let no sadness come to this heart; Let no trouble come to these arms; Let no conflict come to these eyes. Let my soul be filled with the blessing of joy of peace. 

Hamsa earrings [2014: E O]

Hamsa earrings [2014: E O]

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Review: The Magic of Homemade Rice and Coffee Scrub

Do know you that coffee bean and rice grain have a great benefit for your skin? [2014: EO]

Do know you that coffee bean and rice grain have a great benefit for your skin? [2014: EO]

In these last few years, I have been having a hard time to deal with my skin (oily and acne) problem. I have been seeing a number of dermatologist, purchasing the best a.k.a expensive skin care product and spending million rupiah to get rid of it but all I got was just a constant disappointment. Nothing worked well and caused me dependency! So, after the “innovation” of toothpaste face mask to get rid my acne, which works well and I still apply it to my face, I just discovered that I also can get rid of dull skin, black spot and to have a glowing skin by making my own homemade facial and body scrub with coffee bean and rice grain. How come? Below is the fun fact! According to my internet research, Dr. Leslie Baumann, a dermatologist at the University of Miami, was quoted by Elle Magazine Canada, mentioned that the caffeine in coffee can help to smoothen the skin and also remove the skin cancer cell by sun damage. She added that caffeine is an antioxidant, it helps to shrink the blood vessel and dehydrates fat cells.

Homemade coffee and rice scrub [2014:EO]

Homemade coffee and rice scrub [2014:EO]

Other than that, an article on Livestrong.com mentioned that coffee scrub can help to treat the redness and inflammation, get rid of cellulite and also smoothen the skin. In addition to that, coffee scrub also can help to get rid the dark under-eye circle. Meanwhile  Caroline Frazer, a skincare expert, was quoted by dailymail.co.uk, pointed out that that rice scrub helps to smoothen and brighten the skin because it contains pro-vitamin B5 and vitamin E. The article also mentioned that rice has been used by Japanese to get flawless skin for hundred years.

Applying the homemade rice and coffee facial scrub [2014: EO]

Applying the homemade rice and coffee facial scrub [2014: EO]

So….. since I found out about the great benefit of coffee and rice for my skin, I have been continuously making my own homemade facial scrub from coffee and rice on daily basis. Everyday, I scrub my face with it especially after I did an outdoor workout or used a make up, i.e powder. And guess what? After a month I applied it to my face, I have started to see the result of it where my facial skin is brighter, smother, firmer and glowing. Of course, I have been aware that it DOES NOT give me AN INSTANT best result but I see that the result comes GRADUALLY. Nowadays, I can start to see that the result coming, where I have so much less acne comparing than before. If I do have acne, it usually comes only 1 or 2 before my menstruation comes. On the top of that, I also can confidently go out with  my face naked, i.e I don’t have to use any foundation or bb cream to cover up my dull facial skin anymore. However sometimes I am still using powder, it depends on the occasion.  You can see the different on the picture below!

Before using the magic coffee and rice scrub! FYI, I wore make-up in this photo [2014: E O]

Before using the magic coffee and rice scrub! FYI, I wore make-up in this photo [2014: E O]

My naked face! No foundation, no powder, no heavy make-up! [2014:EO]

My naked face! No foundation, no powder, no heavy make-up! [2014:EO]

So how do you make your homemade rice and coffee scrub? It is very easy! Just grind two table spoon of rice and a table spoon of coffee bean together. Mix the powder with either mineral water, olive oil or honey. For me, I usually mix it with water only as I don’t particularly believe that the olive oil or honey that I bought 100 percent organic or natural. I am worried if it might contain some chemical, which might be harmful for my skin. You know … business people are tricky. They claim their product to be organic meanwhile some of them are not. So I rather to use mineral water. Lol! FYI, I also use the rice and coffee scrub for my body. I am glad that I found this great secret natural beauty recipe, which costs me small fortune and works well. I also don’t have to be worried with any chemical side effect for my face anymore because it is all organic and so far I have no side bad effect from it. Now I can save my money that I have been spending for skincare treatment product, which never worked, for something else.

Goodbye expensive skincare products! [2014: EO]

Goodbye expensive skincare products! [2014: EO]

It is amazing that actually we can find a health treatment in our own home. It is natural, organic and inexpensive. And you know…. this great “innovation” really helps me to minimise my spending  on cosmetic as well as helps me to minimize my consumption on chemical products, which tend to have a negative effect to my body. So farewell expensive chemical facial skin care products! signature

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Notes: Being Healthy

Gym time [2014:EO]

Gym time [2014:EO]

I have been going to gym three or four times a week lately. Somehow I am madly in love with exercise but let me tell you a story why I become a gym freak lately.

Honestly, I have never been in love with sport  until I moved to Jakarta. I used to think that doing sport is just time consuming, wasting time and exhausting. I have never thought about the benefit of it for my body and my health.

Back when I was still in elementary and high school,  I never took the sport class seriously. Somehow I still vividly remember whenever our teacher asked the students to run around the school field before the sport class was started, number of students, including myself, chose to walk. I would say that back that time most of the students were excited with sport class because it was done outdoor and it was time to chit-chat with our classmate. However now, I have different point of view about sport and the importance of it for my health.

So here my gym love’s story began. Back to 2010 when  I moved to Jakarta for the very first time, I was drown into a very bad big city lifestyle and routine, stressful life with frustration. I worked from 10 a.m to 8 p.m sometimes 9 p.m, would eat late and eat whatever is available, I did not manage to have enough sleep or a good quality sleep well and on the weekend, I would go out to have some cocktail or wine with my friends until I got drunk. It went that way week after week, after week and after week. I didn’t pay attention on my own health and always felt that I was strong.

Can you imagine how bad my lifestyle was, how my money wasted, how my body was slowly damaged and how bad the impact into on my body and spirit because of those bad lifestyle and routine? It was terribly bad! I had no idea about being healthy and I lived a very bad yet stressful lifestyle.

Jogging Track [2014: E O]

Jogging Track [2014: E O]

But things changed in 2011 since I met my dawg, George. You know sometimes many people say that the reason they sign up for gym membership because they want to get skinny or have a sexy body but George has different story. He told me an interesting story about why he loves sport so much and how important being healthy is, it got nothing to do with being skinny but about to be healthy.

Somehow, his story inspired me and I decided to sign up for gym membership in the nearest fitness centre in my apartment complex in South Jakarta. Of course as I was not familiar with fitness centre, I also decided to hire personal trainer for nearly six months to get myself familiar with the gym equipment, the exercise program and also the diet.

Honestly, I found it difficult to get myself discipline to go to gym at least three times a week at the very beginning. It is because (once again) going to fitness centre is such a time consuming and it’s too complicated to bring gym bag before going to work. But I realized that it is all about willing in ourselves by ourselves, it is about courage in ourselves by ourselves.

As time passed by, I started to enjoy working out at the gym when I felt the result of working out, I felt more fresh, strong and less stress. I have to admit that exercise at the gym is pretty is tiring activity but I would say that it is different kind of tiredness compared to tiredness from our daily routine. Now it has been more than two years since I signed up for gym membership. I tried my best to manage my time to go to gym at least twice a week, regardless my routine.

One thing that I learn about engaging with sport activities is that it teaches us to be discipline with ourselves, e.g discipline in managing our time between working, exercise and resting. It also teaches us to appreciate our body and physical health.

However  clearly everybody has different motivation when they sign up for the gym, some people sign up the gym membership for ‘image’ a.k.a status, some want to get skinny, some want to reduce their weight and some want to be healthy. Me, I want to be healthy because I know how uncomfortable it is to be unhealthy and take medicine every morning simply to be healthy.

Source of vitamin [2014: E O]

Source of vitamin [2014: E O]

Meanwhile the aesthetic result of exercise is my second reason why I go to gym. Hence, I also need to pay attention on what I consume, i.e I eat less fatty and junk food; I consume less sugar, I don’t take soda  and also I cut down my alcohol intake on the weekend.

For me, living a healthy lifestyle means that we have to be discipline in managing our selves, it also means that we appreciate and love ourselves. If we are healthy, we can do anything with a happy feeling. Don’t you think so?

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Alert: Black Money Scam

Few weeks ago, a friend of mine told us a story that he became the victim of Black Money Scam few years ago by some African men in Jakarta. It was not unfamiliar in my ear. Once I nearly fell as a victim one day in 2011 by my dear friend that I just met.

A friend showed me a white-blank note and a couple bottle of chemical liquid. He told me that he could turn the blank note to be a 100 USD note. He showed me the process but later he said that he couldn’t complete the process because he did not have a complete chemical liquid to wash the money. But it was nearly look like a 100 USD bill. “Wow! Is that real?” I said to myself.

So the next day, I told my co-worker, who was posted at the Indonesia’s Attorney General office, he told me that it was not real money and it is better that I stayed away from my new friend. But I was still curious I searched it online and apparently that it was a dirty business, it was a crime that is known as Black Scam Money.

Black Scam Money is a scam where a con artist attempt to obtain money by persuading the victims with a whole-pile of banknote-sized paper in a trunk. The con artist usually would claim that the money have been dyed black or another colour to avoid detection by customs. Later, the victim would be persuaded to pay for chemical liquid to wash the money with a promise that he would share in the proceed.

So how is the process conducted? First of all, the scammer would send a million of emails => the scammers would approach the victims =>the scammers would ask for an advance fee => the scammers would ask for more money to purchase chemical liquid to wash the money => victims go to see the money in the trunk =>washing a small sample of black money => more money to wash the money but there is no money. (You can check the full detail here)

As I never asked him again, he never pursued me again to be his client because one reasons and another but we remain friends because I simply want to give the benefit of doubt. Therefore, if you received this kind of email on Facebook

Hello, how are you doing, I hope you are in good condition of health? I’m Brian Wesley, Sorry, if i suddenly visit your profile. Can we be very good friend? if you do, am willing to know much about you. thanks.

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i have an investment proposal but am not sure if you will be interested , as i see your profile that your very hard working and already own your own business, i am a military contractor in Iraq, and some of the US Army who serve in Iraq discover some money from Saddam Hussein warehouse. the want to transfer the money to Indonesia and want me to look for some body reliable and have her own business , as the plan to stay in Indonesia Bali after the finish there Job, i want to convince them transfer the money to you so you can use it to expand you business and make profit before the end of the year, please reply to me if your interested to my email”

Please do not respond to any of it before you fall as a victim. Do not accept any invitation meeting because they will play with your head and heart. As soon as you meet them, if they gain trust from you and start to ask for money or fancy stuff such as fancy watch.

I see this business is very cruel, it is the betrayal of trust business. They know when to start and they know when to stop it. They know very well how to twist the situations. You have worked hard to earn those money but those scammers just want to steal your sweat. Interestingly enough, those scammers tend to go to church on Sunday but steal money from hardworking people on the working days. They are very heartless and have been eaten by their greed!

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