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I never really know what George’s education background. I never know whether he really went to university or not. I would say that George is actually a pretty smart man but he is not a book wise kind of person, who could tell you the story of the Cold War or the story of the author of Odyssey or the Island of Ogygia or even The Electron.
George is a life wise kind of person, coming from small town of Nigeria. He has been travelling around Africa and Asia to find means to improve his life as he hates the poverty. He would do anything to generate money and improve his life.
Anyway, as a father of two, George always said to be that being a father is a very big responsibility, he wants that his kids get the best education so they would not live a life like him. I would say, I was pretty touched by that. That’s what I like about him.
For me, education is a basic foundation for anyone to live in this competitive yet challenging life. Everyone should learn as much as they can because it could determine their future as everyone deserves a good future. However, education is not enough, our spiritual and bodily power would add extra value into our life as an individual.
Hence, I agree that he should provide an excellent education for his kids because we are living in a competitive world. Unless you become an entrepreneur and choose to be an employee of multinational big company, you must have an excellent education.
But what I don’t understand is while he is complaining that he doesn’t have penny, he often purchased for fancy stuff such as Dolce&Gabbana outfit, Valentino outfit, Kenzo shoes, Emporio Armani suits or Roberto Cavalli shoes. So now my question is being, how would he provide an excellent education for his two cute boys while he just shop to satisfy himself?
I was happy that there were a couple of occasions when I gave him several books for his children and help him to choose an encyclopaedia for them. I hope that it would be useful for them. I just hope that they would really get a good education in the future. I just really hope that they can grow as smart kids with good education. Hence, they would be able to get a legal job, which pay them with proper salary and live a good life. Everybody deserve a good future.
Warning: Please read about before you read the rest of the blog and leave comment. Thank you!Once my friend George (not his real name) told me that as an African, he is very annoyed and dissapointed with the stereotype attached to African people, who are always labeled as drug dealers, fraudster or criminal in Indonesia or in other part of the world. He felt that it is not fair to label them that.
Well, I understand with what he felt as I am a woman, who is married to a Westerner, tend to be judged as a bule hunter and gold digger. Being labeled with any kind of stereotype is never fun at all. In fact, it is very hurtful.
But for me, it is very important to ask ourselves what should we do to change society’s point of view about us? In my own opinion, we should do the opposite of what people say to prove that we are not what they think we are. We need to educate them.
If society labeled you as a fraudster then try to find a real job even it only gives you small amount of money. If society labeled you as a gold digger then try to work hard and live on your own income. And for me, when the society labeled me as a bule hunter, I am trying to prove it with my upcoming book about the life of Asian women who are married or in relationship with bule. (Someone tried to stop me to publish the book, which is a very stupid idea. Who do you think you are? You are not my mother!)
So either you have to ignore what society say or you have to make some changing. For me, it is very important to make some changing about the ugly stereotype, which is attached to me.
Anyway, George used to tell me that many African men tend to hide their identity in this country because they do not want to be judged especially there are many Nigerian, who are committed into drug distribution in Indonesia. He felts very insecure to reveal the real identity about himself. Why? It is because he was very annoyed that African people tend to be the target of police operation, be it is drug distribution or fraud.
Other than that, by being opening themselves about who they are, they are afraid that people would use the information against him. Well… I would say that people would use their real information against them because you might have done something bad to them as well, e.g cheat on other people money, cheat on your lover or force your lover to do abortion without really care about it.
I don’t mean to justify any negative action but aren’t we living in the competitive world where people are looking eye for an eye to survive? Again, there is nothing wrong for being true about yourself to other people. It is because once you lie, you would always lie and you would live on a fake life of yours. The worst is when the truth is revealed, it would hurt yourself and people around you.
I am not saying that I never lie. I am not holier than anyone. I guess everybody lie but when lie become one of your habit, people would lose trust on you in so many ways. I have been cheated in so many ways by my dear brother George. I have forgiven him so many times because he apologised and kneeled down on his knee.
But the thing is when lie becomes your habit, you tend to tell fables to anyone for the rest of his life. Unless a liar has a strong willing to change, a liar would stay as a liar. There is a Javanese proverb says “Gusti ora sare” (God never sleeps), what goes around would definitely comes around in His own time, in His own way.
Having said all of that, my question is now being should we hide our identity simply because of the stereotype? Or should we prove that society wrong? Or the fact that the society was correct with the stereotype to us that is why one must lie? Well… only you can answer it.
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Ayo…! It’s funny that many Westerners (individuals) are often complaining about how unhygienic the development and third world countries are; meanwhile many of them are not paying attention for their own cleanliness and hygiene.
Some of them will not shower twice a day, brush their teeth twice a day, flush the toilet and wash their genital after urinate or poop or use deodorant on day to day basis. I considered that those attitudes are very disgusting and I cannot really deal with that.
However to be fair not all Westerners act like that, many Asian and Africans also do the same but [in my opinion] the worst is Westerner. Why? They tend complaining a lot about other without looking themselves in the mirror simply because they often feel more civilised than people from the development and third world country. That’s just annoying!
A quick question: does a designer fashion product make someone look older than their age? I have been asking these question at least in this last one year. It is because whenever I entered the shop with head to toe designer fashion products, especially dress and high heels, I am always addressed with Ma’am or Ibu.
Despite the fact it is a polite way to address a woman, honestly I always feel uncomfortable with that because it makes me feel old. In one of my favorite boutique or restaurant, the staff always address me with Ibu Fani. Or yesterday when I went to H&M shop, the staff said to me “May I help you Ma’am?”
So I asked to myself “What? Ma’am? Do I look old? I am only 26 years old! “
The thing is I love wearing dress and I love designer dress because of its design and its quality, it wouldn’t be washed and worn out easily after being worn many times. They are long-lasting collection.
So I would rather to buy BCBGmaxazria or Michael Kors dress with half price or 30 percent sale -I don’t buy latest collection as they are pricey, I am not rich and I cannot afford them - than Forever21 dress. Or Dolce&Gabbana and Kenzo t-shirt than Zara shirt.
Anyway, go back my original question does designer fashion product makes someone looks older? Or is it simply because the technical requirement for them who works in the hospitality industry? Or do I really look old? Can anybody help me to find the answer?