A woman should be able to stand on her own two feet. As much as possible, a woman should not be dependent on man in so many ways, including for money.
In the end of the day, when men were busy making some money and pursuing their passion, women tend to work harder than men do. Women carry baby for nine months. Women make sure that there is always food on the table, that kids get the best education and that the family is always healthy.
An old friend of mine used to say to me “A woman must be able to do everything by herself, including earning money. Let us not becoming a slave for a man simply because we cannot do anything but spread our legs and get fucked,”
“One of the reasons that I divorced from my ex-husband because I often got a verbal abuse from him. Whether he called me a gold digger, a spoiled bitch or a lazy wife and mother who could not take care of the family. I was only 19 years old at that time,”
“I could not stand that! I could not take it. If it is just about money, money won’t go anywhere. We always can try to find away to earn it even it is small. The most important thing is that we must keep working and praying.”
“I always tried to work hard to earn my own money because it is very complicated to deal with man about money issue.”
“You know that I have to take care of my daughter by myself. My ex-husband does not even give any penny for child support. I don’t know where he is now. But I really don’t care because I can stand by my own two feet and can support my daughter with my own sweat.”
It was a conversation between me and Liliana few months ago in a coffee shop in Kemang. I suddenly remember about it. She is a strong woman. She is a single parent, a hardworking woman and a caring mother. I really like talking to Liliana. She is a very inspiring woman in her own way.
I lost direction [2013: Nataya]
One of my biggest dreams is to be a successful woman, who is good on what I am doing, as well as an independent woman.
Since I was young, I have started to take a part-time job to earn an extra pocket money. I’ve taken a job as cleaner, a waitress in a chocolate house, a secretary as well as an assistant for a Dutch journalist, based in Yogya.
As I completed my study, I moved to Jakarta to pursue a career as a media worker in early 2010. Initially, I started to do an internship at an English language newspaper, continued doing another internship at an American and finally working as a general news reporter for an English language newspaper.
Honestly, I really like my job. Every day I learnt a lot about so many things, including how to how to collect the data for the article, how to approach the source and how to write an article in English, especially that I was not graduated from English Literature program.
I am glad that my former editor told me that I have improved from time to time. And I know that it takes time and effort to be a successful woman and good on what I am doing.
When things get blurry [2011: ER]
Now I work as a freelance writer for a foreign media. I love my job because I can write the topic that I have interest in. But unfortunately, working as freelance writer, I don’t have a protection or an umbrella if something’s bad happen. On the top of that, it does not have a definite career direction.
And I start to feel lost. What am I going to do now? I need new science and theory to be implemented. I want to go back to school. I want to go back working at a company or organization. I cannot just stay as a freelance writer. It will bring me nowhere.
How can I a successful independent if I stay as a freelance worker?
I need to get back up. I know that there is always sunny day. I need to start hunting for a scholarship again, focus and take it seriously. I have time to search and prepare myself.
I really want to study in the foreigner country such as U.K or U.S.A so that I can use my knowledge to serve people in my country and be useful to other.
Other than that, I also can make my dream come true by being a successful yet independent woman, who does not depend on man. I want to have my own comfortable house, car, healthy food and be able to travel around the world. Nevertheless, I don’t want to be a greedy being.
Liliana was correct that a woman must be able to do everything on her own without being dependent to a man.
A friend of mine always said that I must focus if I want to make my dream comes true.
Well… stay focus Fani!