As an adult, who just moves out to big city, there is one thing that I must remember that life is not one night in a big city, which means life is hard and life needs a reponsiblelity . Every morning, I go to work because I need to earn some money to pay the bills, other than that, I go to work because this is the job that I have been wanting it since I love writing, I love sharing information and I want to be a journalist, a writer.
I vividly remember that before I moved to Jakarta to work, my fiance often said to me ‘To earn money, you have to spend money first” and he is right, to build the network, it is not cheap. But then again, there is a reason why you would do this because there is a dream out there that you want to pursue. So, sometimes you will be paid cheap because you are lack of experiences in the field that you really want to work in and it should not be a big deal to you because all you are looking for is a playground to learn something for your future. However, it cannot stay like that forever because it is not free to live our lives.
I want to share an interesting topic that I used to share with my friends couple months ago.
When I was in Bangkok to join environmental journalism training, I had an interesting conversation with Clara and Agnes about women’s career and marriage life. There are some women, who will leave their job for her new family life because she has to take care of her children, her husband, her house, her family needs, etc. But, there are two reason why those women leave their job. It is because 1)SHE WANTS to leave their job and want to start her family 2) HER HUSBAND ASKS her to leave their job.
I will say, the first reason that SHE WANTS TO LEAVE HER JOB is KIND OF understandable because those wife are not under pressure, they are not forced by anyone including her husband to leave her job. However, I cannot imagine how boring it would be when you have nothing to do other than taking care of their family.
Other than that, YES, their husband might earn alot of money but wouldn’t it better when woman have their own freedom of finance especially when women always want to buy more shoes, more clothes, more handbag, more cosmetic, etc. Because there are not many man who easily gives 3000 USD to get Bottega Veneta handbag or 2000 USD to get a pair of Christian Louboutin shoes [well, it is too hi end example he he]. But the point is some men is not that easy with the money when it comes to women’s need as men could not understand why women would need 20 pair of shoes, 10 handbags or 50 dresses. As a woman, I could not even understand but there is satisfaction when woman get what they get stuff that they want.
The other thing associated with a married woman, who leaves their job because they want to, actually some men will be more proud of their women who has their own career , earn their own money and keep updating their brain with a new knowledge from their work. But those women who leaves their job because they want to, some of them often turn to be a boring woman because they do not have interesting topic to talk about or there is no new thing in themselves that makes husband interested.
Second reason about women who leaves their job because SHE WAS ASKED TO LEAVE THEIR JOB, i will say it is kind of DISASTER because their husband have stopped them and locked them in their little family world and she has to deal with the children, husband and family needs. Why would you stay in the cage? YES, family is important but this is not right when a man asked their wife to leave their job just to care their family.
I will say, this kind of woman will get frustrated easily, she will get jealousy and she will be a boring woman. It is because she does not have job, she just stays home, she takes care of the children and she does not update their brain with a new things; and the worst case of scenario is if the husband is not such a good man, he will see his wife as a boring person because she does not have an interesting thing to share other than kids and family.
This type of woman will get angry easily because of the stress from the children and family things, she is getting jealous easily because they do not know the world outside the house . Or even worst, from their frustration, she will do unhealthy things such as keep eating and do not take care of herself. In the end, after she gives a birth, they turn to be lil fat and the husband do not show his interest anymore.
However, those two things can be simply fixed by trying to figure out what you want to do to make yourself happy. For example, take a course, get your ass back to work once they children are sent to school or get involved into any organization. Do not ever want to be asked to stop to do what loves to do because in the end of the day, you have to satisfy yourself as a free person who has right to do anything what you love to do
But to get your freedom of finance, try to do a small business to earn some money for yourself and if you are not good at business, then try to do some investment in the bank. Although, it might not earn as much as you expected (depend on how much you invest, but there is some income that you can have in your pocket.
I know, I am not a married woman and I am talking as if I know how it feels to be married woman, but this is an interesting subject that I had with Clara and Agnes while we were in Bangkok. Therefore, the only things that I want to do is pursue my dream and make it as the part of my life so I can keep my brain updated, be an interesting person for my life partner and I have my own freedom of finance. I do not want to be a housewife, who takes care of my children because the world is too beautiful to be not seen.
Other than that, who does not want to get a pair of Christian Louboutin shoes in the closet? Life is not one night in a big city, so if i want a pair of shoes, the latest apple gadget or a nice handbag, I have to work hard for it.